Recently won some money on the football, mt parents looking after my money and they know i won as i told them. Had ideas for hols etc. therefore told them i'd put in my bank with them soon as i have it. Like any gambler i had a bad moment and reversed the transaction and sadly lost it all. i've told my mum as i find it a lot easier to speak with her compared to my dad as he reacts differently and i don't think it will be good for anyone. the options i have are A) slightly increase my personal loan i have at the minute, which is on relatively low interest rates in order to be able to give the money to him and for him to know no different or b) confront my dad and explain what's happened even though he hardly trusts me as it is and i know this will make it 10 x worse, not only for me but for my whole family.
Any quick responses would be much appreciated, cheers.
Why does your Dad not trust you much?? I ask as if this is gambling related he should of not been happy you originally placed a football bet, the fact you lost it again is kind of irrelevant, I would strongly urge you not to extend the personal loan, that won't help anybody long term.....is there anyway you could maybe tell a white lie?? That the company won't pay out or you got the amount wrong as misjudged the bet etc?? I feel sorry for your Mum in all this, I hope you all learn some lessons from this.
all related to gambling i guess, in fairness i've suppose not really gave him any reason too but it's horrible just feeling like your parents don't believe a word you say. My dad heard me talking in my room as he was sat at the top of the stairs and as predicted he lost it, this is what i was trying to prevent from happening. i can't lie anymore, i'm sick i just want to stop.
Hi
Lifelesson
I agree. No more lies. Not even white ones as addiction thrives on them. Have the awkward conversation with your dad, be honest, ask for his help. Sure hes going to shout & scream but in time at least you will gain bis respect because you told the truth
he probably thinks higher of a piece of dog poo on the floor than me right now. called me all sorts of horrible names where as my mum will sit and talk with me and is much more supportive. i feel terribe for what i've done and put the family through. the hardest part for me is that i don't know how even if i didn't gamble at all i could prove it to them, i feel i'm already marked as a liar etc. and they'll always think that of me although i'd love for that to change? any tips at all?
many thanks
I'm absolutely sure your Dad is just confused by the gambling addiction you have. Some people can't accept it is an addiction, unhelpful advice advce such as 'just stop doing it' doesn't work. You have to want to stop in the first place. Until you do life will continue this way. You have more guts than me by the way, I have never told anyone close to me about my problem,I am way too embarressed.
how you doing life lesson i hope your ok
Just weighing up the pros and cons mate. Don't think it's fair for my girlfriend to not deserve a holiday because of my stupidity. It would be well within my means to afford to pay it back. I'm just in a real rut spraggy and really don't know what to do.
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