End of the road..

Hi nointerest9

Yes you are 27. But you have your entire life ahead of you! You can start again, you can kick this. We have all made terrible mistakes. I know I have. And trust me I know how you feel. If your struggling please call the gamcare helpline or talk through the netline. They have been such a help to me. I came here a few weeks ago feeling depressed. Anxious. Sick. Guilty. Shameful. All you are feeling right now. It hasn't been easy but I'm slowly moving forward. Your in the right place for help and support. I have also found the chat room a great help talking to others in the same position.

Hello,

Thanks for coming to the forum and sharing your story. I know it can feel like the end of the world but there is support out there to help you. You say yourself you have a good family, and although I don't know your circumstances if you are honest with them I'm sure they will be there (although understandably disappointed).

The first step is to own up to them, and then look at the Gamcare helpline, GA and counselling. You can kick this if you really want to, and the dark cloud will lift.

My husband hit rock bottom and the things he was saying were so similar to what you have said. He still has a long way to go but is over 100 days gamble free and the difference in him is amazing.

Yes he has a lot of debt and that doesn't go overnight but he said just the fact it is out in the open is the biggest weight lifted ever. Even people who don't know what happened have commented that he seems happier and healthier and the difference I have seen is staggering. I'm using this example because I don't want you to think that you will feel like this forever - with the right help and a bit of determination you won't.

Good luck and keep posting.

Hey man,

I'm 27, im in nearl 14k of debt myself and I at least partly know how you feel. I can't really tell you what you should do in regards to your parents. But I have realised a few things about myself that maybe will give you something to consider.

I started getting in a lot of debt about a year ago, mostly I was 4k overdrawn with a credit card. My parents gave me basically all the money to cover my overdraft, and guess what I did with it? Since then I have gone on to get all the way to nearly 14k. Gambling virtually every day, little interest in anything else and like you not performing at work. I understand a lot of what you're feeling.

Something I have realised is that it won't do me any good to have someone else clear my debts. If other people keep paying for our mistakes, will we ever learn? It's really tough but i'm now nearly 3 weeks GF and feeling good about things Starting from payday next week, i'm going to start living off a tight budget and clearing as much debt as I can. I think it's something for you to consider at least.

Hi Nointerest

You are obviously in a very bad place at the moment and whilst there are some basic first steps we all need to take, probably best that I do not try to provide any hamfisted amateur advice while you are so low.

Please ring the number under the Support and Counselling tab at the top of this page and let someone with the right skills and knowledge help you. There is loads of support you can be given both short and longer term to help you deal both with the financial impacts and the actual addiction. You just have make that call.

Remember you are not on your own, many of the people on this site have been in your position or somewhere similar and there is a better future available to you if you take the right steps. Aged 27 with £9k of debt is not financial ruin, you have a lot of life to recover that in.

Just make that call and keep posting on here.

Stay strong no interest the suicidal feelings are horrible and you should ring gamcare for help asap just to talk things through,you may think it's the end of the world but it's really not your only 27 and you can stop gambling if you really try,I'm only 33 days gamble free so I'm not exactly the pro either but take some time to read through people's diaries on here there's so many great stories ones that you will relate with and ones that will inspire you to stop gambling for good,this website has been a lifesaver for me.in regards your parents I would talk to them asap also they will not be happy but I'm sure they will support you emotionally anyway,and as Cg gambler says you need to take responsibility for your debts and can't rely on them to pay for your mistakes again,youl end up doing the same thing in a few months.good luck on your journey and stay strong you can get over this.

They cannot take from you what you do not have, hopefully with the right advice and a payment plan you will get some control back. Gambling very much gives us a feeling of total chaos and no control but that's only in the here and now..it's not your forever