Enough is enough

You have had an awful time lotty. You need some time to heal have you spoken to anyone professionally.sometimes it helps to talk to a complete stranger, I know it helps me as the addict. If he trys  to tell you any different don't listen he's an addict. If you have time read the last post on my thread  that's what addiction does to you. I'm doing the counselling have no financial control and have blocked all websites . My hope is all this is enough. I wish you well lotty hope sharing helps. Trying to help you and others is important for me, I spent 30years as a nurse. Lost my way , hoping that helping others as well can help me help myself

I saw a counsellor last a year back, it was while he was seeing his counsellor who said he was actually insane to tell me the prison lie. 

I really don’t know what to do, I feel trapped but I also feel that he was/is soul mate. 

If he had somewhere to go I’d ask him to leave but he doesn’t have anyone here. I’m worried he’ll do something stupid, he text me this morning to say he’s not coping. 

Lotty I'm so sorry. It's v difficult to tell you what I think

Lotty you must not go there. This is all a game. You go round and round. Don’t feel sorry for him. His behaviour is inexcusable. As you said you don’t even know if he went to GA.

If you accept this you are inadvertently telling him it’s ok to treat you like this. Your post is entitled ‘enough is enough’.

You have been working and paying for him to gamble. You have to stop the cycle.

If a gambler feels the consequences of their behaviour they will learn that they can’t continue. If you let him continue to manipulate you he never learns or feels the consequences. He has done this before with his previous relationships. He has no conscience. He doesn’t care. The only thing he cares about is gambling.

You do not deserve this. You are perfectly capable of earning a living for yourself. 

One thing I know for sure, if you give a gambler money you will never see it again. Get some advice from stepchange, they are a great charity. 

Try not to worry about him and his mess. Concentrate your energy on you.

He isn’t your soulmate because you have been living with someone who is constantly lying. You only see what he wants you to see.

Lotty you cannot fix him. 

Sorry lotty I also think he's playing you. He knows that you will feel sorry for him, help him and so the cycle repeats. We can't advise you what to do it's your life but I'd be lying if I said you and your son are going to live happy ever after with this man. With kind  regards