Hello everyone,
On 28th October, my life changed forever. I said to myself as a problem gambler I’ll go win my £800 that I lost the previous day at the casino to no avail. At the end of the day, I lost all of my savings, (£4000) and applied for a loan of £7000 and lost half of it. I then proceed over up until today to fluctuate up and down that money gambling everyday. I lost all of the loan plus £2500 that I borrowed from friends to keep going. I currently have £6.35 all together. The positive is I started a new job as I lost this money in a season of being unemployed for two months. I am hurt everyday, I look at my computer screen at work everyday n reminisce bout the time I had that savings n how I thought it wasn’t enough to get a car. Now I’m almost 12k in debt, I duno how to feel. I sometimes sit and stare into distance thinking how can i have the worst addiction there could possibly be. It’s gulped my life up and I won’t be able to get a car for a year plus now. Luckily I live with my parents so rent isn’t much and my loan repayment are affordable with my salary. However, I’m truly devastated and feel like I never gave my self the chance. Everyday I wish I could go back so I can be happy at work. I think months need to go by yet I feel like days are passing me by so slow. I had plans for the year ahead like going holiday and stuff but I know it won’t happen. I never gave my self the chance and gutted bout it. I let everyone know and choose to stay at home and visit my girlfriend on my days off until I recover the money. I gambled for a month straight and this is what happens. I truly don’t believe I’ll be happy again yet I try n put on a brave face everyday knowing that I’m probably the only one in the room I’m in going through such a thing. I’m never gunna get a car and spending my 20s recovering from stupid mistakes was never my plan. I’m wasting my youth and my face is changing due to stress. I want to get a second job to recoup quicker but know I’ll have no time for anything and will be very miserable. I wish someone can help me!
Hey just wanted to say. Be strong. It's so hard 😫 believe me I know. On a side note. I've just recovered from the worst flu my life. I thought to myself whilst being hot and cold aching fever if someone offered me 1 million pound but I had to feel that sick for 1 year I would decline. That was a bingo moment for me. Health is wealth. Take care all the best. Here if you need to vent. Take baby steps and before you know it you will have come far. Gambling isnt about the result. Many times ive said if i can just get x amount back ill quit... we all know its a lie. Gambling is an expensive loan which you will always pay back and more. Much love 🫶
Hi mate first of all if you want to live successful live you have to ban yourself from all forms of gambling.Bookies,online gaming,casino venues etc.If you don't you'll be back in action in no time.Thats the first step.
You need to work on your pains and trying to heal them.It is not possible for person to have a gambling problem for no reason.Addiction didn't just come to you out of nowhere.
You need to work on your childhood pains while you been growing up,something did affected you there.Mother or father or not felt loved as much as you expected.Some kind of emotional trauma.You can get through it and live successful life without having gambling or any other addiction affecting you.
Those of us who struggle with addiction simply grew up in an environment where our needs weren't met, and we resorted to coping mechanisms that later became addictions.
Hope it helps even if just a little
The good news is that you can f**k up in your 20's and still turn it around
I was in a similar amount of debt at 23 by 29 I had cleared the lot of it
It's doable ,
The bad news is you are going to need to cut down on socialising for at least 2 years which in your 20's is not fun and whilst living this kind of boring recuperative lifestyle you also need to abstain from gambling
So yea its not an easy ride but if you do it right it will teach you a lesson
Defenitley not the end of the world at that age
Imagine being 40
Hey pal, well done for accepting what you have done firstly, in order to recover and learn you need to accept what you have done and how you did it.
Owning your mistakes in empowering, your situation is not on its own. I am of a similar age in my 20s with debt that was accumulated through gambling. The most important thing for me was writing up a budget of my money. Everything coming in and everything going out that way you can manage your debt more easily. You can also look to budget for things like a car and holidays by saving money each month that you have spare.
Many people have lost more believe me its not the amount , its the addiction it will take you over .Hope you abstain from Gambling
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