Great - I've done it again. Why don't I listen to gamcare - ban the use of gambling sites from my mobile. I thought another harmless £25 will be ofine and now? £200 gone. The urge has been so bad..to win what I've lost in credit cards...feel like crying and such a failure again! What the hell is wrong with me?????? Why do I do this to myself? There must be something wrong with me...today I feel so depressed в№пёЏ I'm so sorry for being weak and giving in...
Hi there , Do you really want to stop ? , the minimum thing you/ should be doing is to put some blocks in place, to at least make it difficult to stop gambling ,
Your not accepting your losses , still chasing them again and again !, until you accept that the moneys gone and your not prepared to thow good money after bad , then your not fully allowing yourself a chance of recovery .
It wont stop until you stop my friend , simple as that,
You know yourself how many times you feel unhappy and sorry when you gamble and lose , I felt exactly the same but I'm coming up to 3 months without gambling , the urges get less as each day passes and I no longer fell unhappy !,
Give it a proper go , you might just like the feeling ?,
Best wishes for now ......................ALAN
You can't win because you can't stop. That won't change.
If you want your situation to change, you have to make changes. Like actually following the advice you've been given, rather than ignoring it.
CW
I have self excluded myself today. It's the right thing to do. I can't gamble online now as that is what I've always done in the past. I feel really rubbish about it all ..will it get better this feeling of shame? My dad gambled his life savings away due to gambling but that was a result of the medication (side effect) of his Parkinsons meds. I feel truly sorry for my dad to have gone through the secrecy that he had to go through and I'm sure the pain he feels daily and my mom too. My gambling..what excuse do I have? Nothing....and it's so easy to be harsh on me because it was ME that has done this. You right that self exclusions is the first step.
By the way I have mentioned my dad because I literally can't stop thinking about his situation (only in the sense that I could have helped him by me being stronger and not gambling myself or let myself get to this point)....the chances I've had to learn from this...
Well done my friend for putting some barriers in place, just make sure you close all the doors ?.
The feeling of shame you have will get better , get a couple of weeks under your belt and you'll start to think more clearly , at the moment you have a lot of thoughts wizzing around your head but things will get easier now youve finally taken proper steps toward recovery .
Don't blame yourself for your fathers actions, as you say the side effects of medication didn't help ! and thats really not your fault .
Take one day at a time and keep those blocks in place , stick with it and you will soon see the difference !.
Best wishes ..................Alan
GBHSI - dont feel bad for your fathers gambling, its hard I know but it wasn't down to you. Stay strong, I have been in the same position as yourself, thinking I'll win a little and then one big hit...thats it. Not slept. Im 23, got big commitments coming up in the future and only the rents know. I just hope that my '2days' yes 2 days.....continues to be 1000's.....roulette has been my killer. My horses due to previous job, interest and knowledge, is my niche betting, something I bet small on and thoroughly enjoy. I feel that I am being strong in not going anywhere near Roulette now for rest of my life, the devils game! Talk to a friend if you cant talk to the Mrs, see what they can do with regards to cashflow, get on top of it and become a winner, in beating the addiction!
You've done the right procedure with regard to Self E.....maybe even order new debit card and pin and get a little savings card where you can take out your weekly amount for your hobbies.....I've done that this week, old dear has my card so I cant wonder into the bookies on my lunch, to nick a little bit.....it just doesnt happen.
Keep going mate, you'll do it! Remember the triangle, time money and location, if you dont have one.....you cant do it! Wise words I got from on here, I only joined 2 weeks ago!
GL Happy!
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