Hi I’m new here a little about me I’m chris 39 I’ve had a problem with gambling for over 8 years now it all started with an innocent horse bet then to slots then sports then live roulette then all it ruined my marriage I kno it did I’m now with a new partner I signed upto to gamstop some years ago but a found a way were I could still sign up to certain sites stupid I know I can feel myself self destructing I’m gambling daily untill 4am some nites I just think it’s the norm waking up tired skint feeling soo low I recently won a bit how sad am I a gambling admiting he’s won guess I’ve forgot the £1000s lost over the years anyways I won and tonite I sat here and put nearly all of it bk into the s**t system they call gambling I feel soo guilty and s**t knowing that money could of gone to or on my kids I just don’t know what to do anymore I feel even tho I’m gamstop banned I can still gamble and make my self feel like this I come here to try talk to like minded people who have maybe been in this situation it’s hard talking to people who haven’t been thru gambling problems about gambling I guess sumtimes they don’t get it etc.
The only way i could change my gambling habits was to get help from family. After 8 years hiding it I eventually told my husband. The hardest thing i have ever had to do but i wish i had told him sooner. He was very shocked and hurt but he forgave me. He has taken over the banking now and checks everything. A year and a half has passed and yes i got a lot of cravings but no means of spending otherwise i would have given in i know.
Believe in ur self and talk to your partner about it
Cheis3621,
hello. Gambling ruined my marriage. More significantly it took my kids away from me half of the time. I lost my million dollar home…etc. I never gambled a day in my life until I was 40 and went to Vegas. Started with slots….moved to sports. Gambler’s curse of pretty large wins immediately and I was hooked. So sad. I think of the money that could have gone for vacations with the kids. Awesome presents for my kids and wife. I’m 53 now. Really only a few months without a bet. I know I am done this time. I’m doing it for me. I actually now HATE the anxiety and stress. The wins don’t give me what they once did because I know for sure that if I keep gambling the money will disappear. No question whatsoever. And that’s what I usually did. I chased wins just as much as I chased losses. I rarely took my winnings and just go home. And if I did I would just go back and gamble the next day!? My last bet was a basketball game. I almost won…but was off by one point. Lots of people come close to winning. It’s a lose-lose deal.
now I release my endorphins by doing something fun with a friend, exercising, taking up a new hobby, listening to music, whatever. Anything except gambling!
If you need to have someone else be in charge of your finances…that’s not a bad thing to do. The difference for me this time was that I did it for me. Not just about the money. It was great to have no more anxiety and secrets. Don’t have to lie about where I’ve been….or what happened with the money. Don’t have to walk around stressing and watching the stats. I get to just be in the moment enjoying life again. So…do it for you! You are a perfect age. Where do you want to be when you are 50? Looking back with regret (which torments me every moment of every day) or being on the rise toward the next fun part of your life (if fortunate enough to retire). I am so proud of myself for saying “Enough!” I know I’ll have to always be on guard. Ruining my family was also something I blame on gambling. I hate it. After Vegas…they brought those stupid machines to our state. It chased me home.
sorry for rambling.
Do it for you! Just think of how much better your life will be!!!
Greg
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