Hi everyone.
I didn't think at 25 years old I would be in 24k of gambling debt. I have 4 years left on my loans and I just can't cope with what I've done. And the worst thing is all I think is how much i want to turn back time and tell myself not to be so stupid.
Constantly chasing my losses making my situation worse. I honestly sit and wonder why my husband even wants to be with me. I'm at a point now where I am done with gambling but there still is that worry in my mind. It just catches you out and I can't stop myself once I start. This time I am seeking help I suppose. I mean how can I get through the next 3 years with this crippling debt it's surreal but I know doing a debt management plan would take buying a house completely out the window for me.
I want children and I literally cannot afford to have them. How do I cope with the guilt and regret..
Thanks
I'm so sorry to read about your situation im in the same boat not sure what to do it's so hard to get away from it but ine stops now maybe we could help each other
I just wanted to say we all feel regret but look forward not backwards because your not going backwards your going forwards it will be tough I’ve beat myself up a lot in the last week as I’m on day five of no gambling and it’s been a rollercoaster of emotions but actually feel so much better knowing I’m taking those steps to put it all behind me you will get there
Hi
Attend as many metings as possible, if you can hand over your finances to some one you really trust.
Being in recovery I learned it was important to heal your pains and find a healthy life before you can find healthy realtionships.
Commit your self to meetings have a healthy sponsor and be willing to exchange all unhealthy habits in to healthy habits.
Dave L
Your situation could be better but it could be worse. It's hard to deal with emotionally, but if you treat the repayment plan as part of your outgoings and live your life separate from gambling then it won't dominate your mind. Look to build an additional source of income to cover the repayment, so it doesn't impact on your main source of revenue. If you could build that as motivation and challenge yourself, it may be the silver lining, because it's an avenue you may not have explored without the loss.
Don't look to chase the loss as a quick fix, because while your mindset is dominated by that thought process, you will be in turmoil and it could get allot worse.
Use the loss to motivate you. See it as driving force. Channel the frustration and regret into something positive and doors will open.
Historically people have served life imprisonment for crimes they didn't commit. People have gone for an innocent swim in shark infested waters without doing there research and it's cost them their life. It's all relative.
You made a mistake. Stand tall, put it right and move on. For whatever reason this is part of your journey. Treat it as a life lesson and take back control. Don't dwell on regret. Focus on growth.
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