I had everything, a fiancee, a step daughter which as a whole was a loving family!bwe planned to buy a house we were saving, but I had to keep dipping into this money to feed my addiction, it started as a few £5 bets but turned into £50/100 bets 3/4 times a week then I extended my overdraft and used my credit cards! Now I have £10000 debts, and lost my perfect family and life! Only good thing I have is I have a decent job which if I can cut this habit I can pay off my debts in less than 12 months and win my loved ones back! What is the best way to overcome all this?
hi mate
welcome to the forum , simply anserw abstain from all gambling , got to train the brain to think totally different and for a CG like us is very hard , im the same mate got decent job , girlfriend , 7 month old daughter and bang self destruct leave myself skint for month , cause laods of finanacial stress when its simple not needed , what was i trying to achieve a few hundread free , not such thing as free money , its the bug , the chase , the mental disease that is modern day gambling its everywhere
phone game care , talk about why and then put blocks in place self exclude from all bookies easy to get to block cpu , i feel for you that ur mrs left you as u need support , my gf got all my bank cards and cash at mo its easier with support , keep posting on here im here every day struggling wanting to bet but NO , its ruining us be ****** brave , reject it , im starting a recovery diary now too , stay strong mate , your get good advice fom others too
Thank you for your replies, I have self excluded from sites and I will come on here when I need to take my mind off it, it's a great idea, it will be the substitute!! She didn't just leave because of the problem it was more the constant lies, the betrael the build up of hope etc etc! I don't blame her, but I know if I can clear my debts and be bet free for 12 months she will have me back! I'm here to help others and I'm sure you can help me!
Once again thank you for your comments and support
Russ
Hi Russ, welcome to the forum, if u ever feel like a gamble come on here have a one to one chat and read diaries to see that ur making the right choices not to gamble. Its not easy but its for the best adam
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Hi Rusca, Welcome, you have come to the right place and that is the first step in the right direction. For a lot of us, coming on this site, and either posting on this forum, or chatting in the chatroon between 8-9 helps us in some way. We all have differnt vices, but a lot of our minds think, or have thought the same way. It helps to chat to people who understand. I have nothing but praise for this and there are some pretty good people around to give some extremely sound advice. Good luck mate! Tx
hello 1st of all i was addicted in drags ,after i quited my passion pass to gambling . every time i save some money . one bad day i bet them all. yesterday i lost 1300 euro less than 30 mins in poker. im from cyprus. i had some other problems psychological problems in the past of my addiction in drags i had passed with streess dipressed and panic attack. i lost my friends . my stydies and now im working in my family bussines . i have my wife .our appartment we are in start of our marriage . she wants to help me now for my issue on gambling . i think i want ur advises how can i stop betting on poker or any other games / pls tell me the steps to follow. i had lost 7000 euro as far. i know it;s low in front of others people but now i thing i have problems and serious problem on gambling. i feel very terrible that i lost all my money in 30 mins for trying double it. My sittiuation here is may little different from others cause i have adhc attention defict hyperactiv disorder. i allways look the wrong ways to feel good. from drags or from gambling . the easy life ... any advises how to start ??
I've just done it again, 7000k in one night, I owe 18k now, my wife doesn't know anything about it we've got two young kids and I feel sick to the stomache coming up to Xmas to I feel so guilty. But I can't tell anyone, the wife might leave me this time.
Scouser you need to address this properly and put everything into proportion. If you continue like this, you will inevitably lose everything. Please think hard about your future, is gambling really worth losing your family for? Of course it isn't. It is hard, I understand, but you make that choice to do it. You need to cut all opportunities, the triangle as I have heard people say. Exclude yourself from online sites etc. Then you need to take every day, one step at a time. When you get the urge, try to busy yourself another way. It will pass. This is a great site to come to and talk to people in similar situations. There is a chat room between 8 - 9, it really does help, believe me. The very best of luck T x
Constantinos,
The way I have started the road to recovery is by one joining the site and 2 contscting all the betting sites I used and self excluded for 5 years this way I know even though I wanted to I couldn't get back on there! My problem was I always doubled my bets to try and win back loses but it didn't help, as if I did double I would think I could double again to win back what I lost before hand, instead of cashing out the 200-1k I had won to reduce or payoff debts I tried to be big and clever thus leaving me in more debt! Once you have self excluded you can't log on and gamble, this is the best advice I can give as its the route I am going down after only realising the true problem was getting too much! Hope this helps and good luck!!
Russ
Scouser
The earlier you tell your wife the better, from my experience the longer you lie and betray there trust the worse off it will be, having people around to support you the better, if I had told my fiancee from the beginning she would have been more supportive but after breaking her trust and not telling her it made it alot worse! Self exclude yourself from the sites, explain everything to your wife and take each day as it comes! I have recently been back in touch with my fiancee and she has given me hope that if I can cut the habit we may be able to get our family back, and I have shown her I'm on here I have shown her I have self excluded and its filling her with confidence and hope so if you can do the same with your wife you have more of a chance her helping you than leaving you she married you for a reason so I'm pretty sure she will help you to recover from this! I wish you all the best, feel free to message any time you feel the urge to keep your mind off it, it's helping me and its good to speak to people who understand what your going through from experience!!
Good luck, Russ
Thanks russ I know Wat ur saying but I had the same problem about ten year's ago and it nearly broke us, if I tell her I've again for the umpteenth time not sure how she will react, I'm thinking to just get my head down and pay this debt back without hurting anybody, I don't want to ruin the familys Xmas because of my selfish problem. I just need to knock this gambling on the head but at the minute it's very raw and it is very hard to hide and be happy, but I believe if I can get through the next few weeks I can put it into a better perspective, nobody's died.
Scouser,
If you feel you will be able to fight it and not ruin Xmas I have every faith in you, if I can stop for the whole of December then I know I'll be in a great position to carry on, it's not worth it when I know I have a chance to win my family back in the near future! That's my incentive and yours is to not ruin there Xmas so I have every faith in you, it's a silly habit that obviously for us hasn't worked in our favour and we just need to prove to everyone we are the better people by putting it behind us and moving forward! I'm always here to help where needed never feel you can't chat to anyone though we are all here for a reason and talking amongst each other is definitely helping me taking my mind off it and I hope it will be the same for everyone else!! Good luck
the problem is that u said ruscal . i made the same mistake. i double the bet in poker for get back my money.and it was going on... this is the big mistake. all are experiences . u have to learn from every mistake so the next time dont fell in a trap again. wish us to improve. working more geting more money. as easy is to will as easy is to lost. i wish u to have balance in ur life... and moneys comes from ur work . peace !! souser28 for 18k its ur time bell to remember it. u will get those money back keep working/find 2 jobs bro.
scouser29 . accepting the sittiuation u have and fight it and solve it. only the death cant change bro
im good now btw! im facing it . i cancell all the sites i was playing... now its up to me for saving money!!
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