Realisation of my gambling issue !!

Hi Rory, I guess the fact that you're on this site & looking for ways out, is itself a big step & my advice is talking through the next steps with someone at Gamcare as i found them pretty good.

I'm just starting out in this myself, so don't have any other pearls of wisdom but know what you're going thru! Now that i've realised it's a problem for me that i NEED to deal with,or it'll just keep on and on eating away at me, I guess I'm kicking it off by arranging counselling sesisons . I don't plan on getting my losses back now, and that way I'm the winner in the long run. The Counsellors have told me to look after myself & help avoid gambling by better 'self care' (such as: gardening, an Airfix model to make, cooking). I don't have a garden & am not much of a cook, so an Airfix model it is. Go well, all the best.

Hi Jazz.

Thanks for the reply. Much appreciated.

went to the bookies again. Another loss.

Going to knock it on the head now. Starting by leaving my cards at home from now on.

Could be worse for me or so I keep telling myself.

Thanks again for your reply.

Hi Rory101.

I hope you will keep using the forum to work things through. Its one of the best things you have along with honesty and openness.

You must stop gambling as I can see you have an addiction which is ruining you. Willpower alone wont do it and you will really have to tell people close to you and get all the support. Everyone here will tell you that having secrets from your wife is no good and will only eat you from within. When you decide to be fully open is up to you

You WILL need to self exclude and there is absolutely no shame in that. It was one of the best days of my life and I saw the spirits lift in other gamblers that saw what I was doing.

A chat with the doctor is a superb help. Phoning gamcare for the one to one voice is also a great help

It may take a while to get your mind fully healthy and straight. There are loads of success stories on here and we want you to join us.

Gambling is immoral and it will ruin you faster than anything. You have been ignoring the odds and ignoring reality like all problem gamblers.

Life is better gamble free. Thats a fact so I hope you will join us

Best wishes from everyone on the forum

Hi Joy.

Just made the call to the self exclusion team. Feel better for doing it.

I also put some cash in a pot this morning which I would of squandered down the book makers.

Thanks for your advice. Hopefully this is a start to not wasting my money on nothing and false hope.

Thanks again.

Been to my local amusement centre today where I have been going for the last 15 years. Got them to exclude me !!!!

Massive well done, for excluding.

It's quite difficult, as many find it embarrassing but it is a big step towards becoming gamble free.

The pot is a good idea. One of the things that helped me greatly was opening a savings account which had no atm card and didn't allow withdrawals without notice.

Everytime I got paid I'd put money in it. At first I was cautious, but was putting more and more each month, because not gambling I realised how much money I was gambling away.

Yes a massive well done for excluding. Its something everyone should do and its pretty crucial that its done very early on .

I had built up mental barriers to it because I thought I didnt want these people knowing all my details and I wasnt ready to take the right steps. Im a very private person and was worried about filling in forms.

Without excluding I relapsed but excluding seems to have really done the trick for me. It was also because I finally clicked that it needed to be done and I was deluding myself that I could do it with willpower alone. With counselling I think I wasnt ready to stop gambling before I excluded from everywhere I had been

When I finally did, it was a glorious day. I gave them just the details I felt they needed which worked for me.

Anyway its a sign that you are dealing with it very well

Best wishes

Thanks guys. Yes I do feel much better.

Thinking about other things already and feel more positive. Buying a new camera today with the money I would of squashed.....I say buying it will be on my plastic friend.

I was in 1 gambling den filling in the form and a guy was throwing 20s in like he was feeding a donkey strawberries.

Early days but the self exclusion is the best advice. I did feel like a J****E or a b*m when I was doing it but its going to work. Already I havnt touched my money and I can see it lasting.

Thanks again

Rory101 wrote: Thanks guys. Yes I do feel much better. Thinking about other things already and feel more positive. Buying a new camera today with the money I would of squashed.....I say buying it will be on my plastic friend. I was in 1 gambling den filling in the form and a guy was throwing 20s in like he was feeding a donkey strawberries. Early days but the self exclusion is the best advice. I did feel like a J****E or a b*m when I was doing it but its going to work. Already I havnt touched my money and I can see it lasting. Thanks again

Well done and credit to you, but don't get too ahead of yourself. Hopefully you've finished with gambling but on the off chance it comes back to bite you again don't forget about Gamcare's counselling and other support groups like Gamblers Anonymous and the like. Hats off to you!

The pot idea sounds great!!! I am on step 1 today and gave my bank cards to the other half, i never thought about just getting her to withdraw all the money and put it in a pot. i never gamble in the bookies so i wont have to worry about having the cash. Online is my vice, so if its not in the bank then i cant spend it.

macca19 you had a slip put it behind you if you dwell on it you could well end up were you once were

Its hard enough to get a secound chance at a productive life..

Go to a professional about your finances they can help you make arrangements with your creditors.

Hi every1 i am a gambler knw for 3 yrs and age 24 and its out of contol nw really wud b nice to talk to some1 and get advise even tho i knw wat i must do

If u have family around u it should make it easy dats wat i think bt i do and its not today i spent my wife last 150 on rollete i gt up to 200 bt still said to my self let me try 1 more time u never know bt i do know 80% i will lose bt i took the chance and i wonder y i wud do dat now i lost all of it have no money for gas and allready brorowed 40 of my sis 20 of my mum so i cant ask again so am stuck on how am gettin to college i knw and relise wat am doing is not normal i will b strong and just gonna give up like dat case am getting streeful

A d cant afford it am on jsa and most times i spend my wife money and that is shameful wen i lose bt when i win its ok this roullete will desroy people lives which its doin to me unless i stop rite nw and never look bk .from now on need to talk to my wife and let her know i hate seeing her uset case i never used my thoughs