Time To Face My Fears.

kk

Hi

I know there has been technical problems and that may be the reason you have not received any support....it will come.

I have no knowledge of online bingo etc but i do know by reading other posts you can arrange a blocker for your computer preventing you playing bingo etc. Think they call it k9.

I have now been off gambling for 104 days after 28 yrs of gambling and it is fantastic having that peace of mind with no thoughts of gambling,no more stressing about how i'm going to live 3wks with no money,how am i going to pay my bills,how many bank charges will i accrue,how can i get money to continue gambling.

And...as i'm sure youve found....how can i win x amount then give them it back plus loads more just because i was on a good run and just want a bit more.

Anyway...the key for me has been finding this site and starting a diary and posting on that diary most days especially in the first few weeks. Reading other posts like an addict and filling myself with positivity has enabled me to abstain for so long and its an immense feeling that you can achieve.

Give it a chance. Put barriers in place and soon the days will pass .

I wish you all the best

Stay strong

Hi thelaw, welcome to the forum and well done firstly for recognising that you have a problem with gambling.

We also have a couple of other things in common
We share the trait that we get stressed easily with day to day life and I think that's why we choose gambling to escape so to speak....the truth is we don't escape and when it's time to close that laptop we have made life alot harder for ourselves. Which is a massive shame, it truly is a horrible addiction.

I lost sight of absolutely everything around 10 days ago online gambling, through Roulette. I get in this zone where nothing matters and we lose touch, I am 30 and now have not alot to show for all my hard work....so irresponsible. Do you find yourself saying I am too smart for this!

Ide suggest some software blockers first off, K9 is free and most say it works quite well. Also maybe get in touch with Gamcare to get some counselling, even just to chat one to one with an advisor.

Take things a day at a time, it will not be easy but with willpower and good advice you can beat this!

Good luck, this can be the start of a new life not being held down by gambling. All the best.

I have had the same problem for years I managed to stay away for 2 years but recently relapsed with cost me 3000 in a week so I am more than happy to share my journey with you and also support you in yours

dez1 wrote:

Hi You People are real lol.thanks for your message.that is some achievment 104 days wooo.i do think these forums will help me,i think taking 10 min out to write down my thought on my addicting is much better than actually gambling so i do find reading other peoples stories helpful.and writting lets me get what i think out.i thank you so much for getting back to me i was starting to feel like no1 was on here.i am nearly at the end on my day 1 and this time of day is really the hardest for me.so i might have a look at making my diary now.hope you all the best in your journey and stay strong.thanks again

I know there has been technical problems and that may be the reason you have not received any support....it will come.

I have no knowledge of online bingo etc but i do know by reading other posts you can arrange a blocker for your computer preventing you playing bingo etc. Think they call it k9.

I have now been off gambling for 104 days after 28 yrs of gambling and it is fantastic having that peace of mind with no thoughts of gambling,no more stressing about how i'm going to live 3wks with no money,how am i going to pay my bills,how many bank charges will i accrue,how can i get money to continue gambling.

And...as i'm sure youve found....how can i win x amount then give them it back plus loads more just because i was on a good run and just want a bit more.

Anyway...the key for me has been finding this site and starting a diary and posting on that diary most days especially in the first few weeks. Reading other posts like an addict and filling myself with positivity has enabled me to abstain for so long and its an immense feeling that you can achieve.

Give it a chance. Put barriers in place and soon the days will pass .

I wish you all the best

Stay strong

kk

Hi thelaw

I am a recovering CG.

One of the first obstacles you will have to overcome is telling your partner. Have you done this yet? This is a must do! He has to know however, if he is to offer you support in your recovery. He will be angry, disappointed etc., and I do hope that he will provide the support to help you. Most partners, family will stick by the CG the first time the problem is revealed.

I would also recommend GA and/or counselling for you. Face to face talking out your problems is much better than on a forum. Everything is spontaneous, so generally what you say first up is the truth. You don't have much of a chance to 'garnish' the truth. Truth is very important. If you aren't truthful and open about your addiction, no-one can help because they are unaware of your problems.

Try and rekindle some hobbies from your past or find some new ones to fill in time. Keep your mind occupied. I find that reading, crosswords and puzzles help to keep my mind away from gambling thoughts.

Read some of the posts on this forum so you have a better understanding of where this addiction can take you if it is not addressed.

There is only one thing that you cannot do in your life again, you cannot have a single bet. Don't think that one bet will not matter. You won't be able to stop at one, and then you will be on the gambling rollercoaster again.

Best wishes

kk.

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Hi thelaw

I think it's great that your partner has access to your posts on this forum. Being able to open up honestly is very important for your well being.

I would really like you to reconsider GA/counselling. You don't have to talk. Just by being in the room you will gain so much benefit. Listen to their stories, feel their pain. You are no different, better, or worse than they are. You will be amongst friends who will be able and willing to help you through this journey. At my first GA meeting I bawled like a baby. I think I was 50 years young at the time. Best thing I ever did. I probably didn't make any sense at the time, but I felt so much better afterwards. 🙂

Take care

kk

kk

Hi,
Well done for making a start in your recovery, I too felt much like you, Feeling alone and wondering where to turn. You have made the right choice coming here.

You will find so much support and people a lot like yourself. I found being honest is key, giving your finances to someone else will take away part of the triangle location, time and money. Take one of those away and you won't gamble.

Be kind to yourself you have admitted your problem now its about doing something about it ans getting your life back.

We all have different reasons to gamble honestly for me I would gamble if I was stressed, happy sad or just because I felt like it, I don't have the strength to stop myself so I had to let someone else take care of my finances until I'm able to.

Wish you all the best, keep posting.

No more losing
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Hi Thelaw69

Just wanted to say sorry for the site problems earlier in the week. We have them completely fixed now. If you want to chat in real time with other recovering gamblers you could visit our online chat which is at 8pm every night at www.gamcare.org.uk/chat.

Deirdre

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