Tips on how to stop gambling

Well, do like this. Close your eyes and imagine an imaginary circle in front of you. Inside that circle is you Kimberley Ridden with all the + and - that you may have. Imagine looking at yourself standing there its easy. Now take a good look at what you want to change. Do not think about what you don´t want, think about the things you do want. If it is a new job for example. Put it in the circle. If it is being addiction free. Put it in the circle. Keep on adding all the things you want for Kimberley and add them to the circle. When you are ready I want you to take 3 deep breaths (count to seven on your inhale and 11 on your exhale). Then close your eyes and step into the circle and merge with Kimberley again and say loudly IT IS DONE!

Try that then give me a shout.

Im 34 years old dead kitchen porter job for 16 years. No career and still dont know what i want to do. I should have been married with kids not single  like i am now.I started when i was 21 22 years old. That time i was betting very little on football. But big on roulette. Wasted all my money on them machines. Then family found out. Never got helped. My family helped me massively. I stopped. I saved up about £18,000. During this time i played lottery with small money since 2000.Then  after before trip to new york and after i was still playing lottery. From when i started new job in 2016. I started spending £100 or more per draw on any draws for that night. Right uptil last xmas. Realising i spent it all and gone in my overdraft by £1,000. But i never have felt the urge to take out credit cards or loans as im not stupid. Sounds strange. Im in this bubble where im keeping it a secret from family. I need to do this alone and stop all gambling for good.when you next walk past bookies  remember that going in  means always lose pointless. I used 2 gambling blocks. Gonna have a go for this weeks lottery few quid to see if i can get out of my overdraft. Definitely do permanent block on lottery. I control all passwords for my home wifi and never been tempted to lift restrictions.  

Overall to both of us this stops now. 

I accept might never get my own place. But i looking at careers jobs i can do with my hands or learn on the job. Ive struggled to learn in classrooms. I cant sit down and revise

There is so much i want to do i want to learn how to drive, i want to have some savings for once in my life. My little girl deserves so much better than a mother who gambles her money away rather than spends it on her.

Instead of asking why can't I? 

Start to ask yourself how can I.

How can I save? How do I learn how to drive?

I had an old friend. Many years ago he had a job that did not pay anything except commission pay. He had sold noting for ages. He would get so depressed that he would sleep for 2 days because he could not handle the reality of it. I told him that he needed to move back to his town and start again with a  job that would give him a monthly wage and reluctantly he agreed. He is a millionaire today and he runs two companies. This is a true story and the message is this. Does not matter where you are now. What matters is what you do now and how you go for your goals because when you decide how. Nothing will hold you back and that is what matters.

You can do it!

Regs

C

All the things you want to do can be achieved by not gambling. As a compulsive gambler I also lived in a dreamworld where I would win enough money to buy a car or win on the lottery to live like a king. The reality was I never had anything when I was gambling and it took even more, but once I stopped I had all the things I ever wanted.

There's loads of advice on here, in diarys, in the help tabs, everywhere. Find a diary of someone doing well and ask what they are doing, how they are doing it and start putting some plans into action. Don't give yourself excuses not to do something, keep going until you've achieved what you've set out to do, and then write about it in your own diary on here for others to see. Good days, bad days, indifferent days, share it rather than let it build up to a bet.

Chris.

Literally put every block possible in place. Book your driving lessons and pay them the day that you get paid! I’m over 500 day’s gamble free and just bought myself a new Mini Cooper sport convertible, after going from having no money at all because I gambled it all away. You’re never ever going to win and gain more than what you’ve spent so as long as you keep doing it you’ll be skint.

Best thing you can ever do is have 1 bank account only and with Barclays. Secure Message them  on Barclays online banking, ask them  to block gambling transactions . Also ask them to limit daily cash withdrawal limit to say £50. Close your other bank accounts down. NatWest and many others no good for debit card as you have to specify each gambling company, there are too many  .Don't download the barclays app as you can easily change it but at least there is 48 hour period for any changes to come in effect. I had been gambling for 15 years But now nearly 6 months no gambling. I had urge to lump huge money on over 0.5 goals in play with half hour to go in Everton Liverpool game thank God I couldn't, shows again there is no easy money.

Ive told my partner and my mother today the extent of my gambling problem and they have said they will do whatever they can to help me. Im feeling positive today that i will not gamble. I want to drive i want to have savings i want my daughter to have a mother who has money and doesnt waste it. Im going to come on here everyday because yas are an inspiration to me thank you for your help so far means alot to me.

Hello,

Well done for sharing your problem with your partner and mother, having been there myself a couple of years ago, I'm sure you feel much better even though it's a very difficult thing to do. 

Keep going!

Si

Hi

You have done Gamstop. 
You could try Gamban (although I havent used that as I am awaiting feedback from others). 
You could try MOSES who self exclude you from local high street bookies and casinos. 
You could try asking your bank to freeze/block any gambling transactions you attempt to pay for with your card(s). 
Hope you stay strong.