DAY 7!
One whole will g/f!Â
No urges in this week. A few thoughts yes but no urges.
Of course thoughts will come and go, we’ve all had these thoughts throughout our time gambling but they’ve never bothered us. We would just continue to gamble. They only start to bother us now we want to do something about it!
The obvious thing is to try and push them away, we don’t want them, they’re hindering so we fight against them which in turn makes them worse.Â
The secret is we don’t have to fight with them, we just need to see them for what they are, a thought and nothing more. The less you wrestle with them the quicker they pass.Â
You don’t question and ruminate over every single thought that comes into your mind do you? So why question this one? The reason you question it is because u don’t like it, you detest it. But having this feeling towards it only keeps you in a loop. To break free, allow the thoughts to be there and see them for what they really are. LIES
They are only there to fool you, entice you back in. Allow the thoughts to be there, make peace with it and I promise it will fade away quicker than if I try and wrestle with it or push it away.Â
This is what works for me!
Hope you all have a good day xxx
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I agree don't try push the thoughts away, they will just become stronger, the way you deal thoughts is to accept we are compulsive gamblers be kind to oneself other wise the self hatred will make the addiction worse.Gambling is used by us addicts as a way of punishing ourselves.Just say to yourself these thoughts won't last Long they are fleeting so relax don't be afraid of the thoughts treat them like they are NOT a threat.CBT is good just try and replace the thought with look at this stupid addiction trys to control me. Laugh at it give it no power, the addiction like people can only have power if you give it t them. EG it feeds o your reactions and misery best wishes Mariah, well done one week is great going keep it up.
100% Johnny. It can take work and practise but will really aide in recovery.
And yes, 1 week….go me!
Missed the chat last night, had to take my daughter to a&e. She’s ok though.
Xx
Thats Amazing Mariah early days are hardest especially the first month it took 6 weeks after my previous relapse for the urgues to settle completely it get to a stage where you think u are perfectly fine and i have slacked off in the past this time around i made sure i put emphasis on my recovery using this site has enabled me to remain bet free and i am practically normal my last major urgue was few months and i have been completely fine so it is possible to break free i have been a gambler for 18 plus years it takes time days will add up before you know my only regret now what didnt i put these same emphasis on my recovery sooner the change and few sacrifices i made which i found difficult at the time i have got use to them life is 100% better
@tazman I agree. This site has helped me massively, it is where I spoke out for the first time and where I have received invaluable support.
I’m yet to feel the urge to gamble, not had one yet. I know it’s probably lurking not too far away (payday) so have put myself in the best position should it arise. I have never been one to gamble every day, just when I got paid really or had abit of money in the bank.Â
Day 8 today! Â 🥳Â
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Hi all,
Just to let you know I am still gf.
The thoughts are coming less and they are not strong, I am stronger.
I still have money in the bank and payday is on Wednesday…such a great feeling!
I did however, for the first time have an urge lastnight. Not had an urge since I quit! It wasn’t too strong so I just saw it for what it was. A fleeting thought like any other thought and it passed. I didn’t fight it or try to suppress it, just allowed it to be there.Â
It will be 1 month gf this time next week! 1 whole month! Let’s get through payday next week, that will be an achievement for me!
Hope you’re all doing well xxx
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