At the end of my rope , can’t go on

no body is going to sava us i have no word to explain my situation too

This sounds like a stupid question, but why did you gamble? What help are you getting? Have you applied all online Restrictions you can? I know its harder with shops, but maybe email thr stores you go and ask them not to serve you anymore.. You can do this If you really want to stop 

Hi Peter, 

Thank you for using the forum and I hope you are well. 

Sorry to hear you find yourself in this situation but it's good you have used the forum for some support. As others have suggested it would be good to look at tools you can use to restrict your access to gambling. If online gambling there are blocking software's and self exclusion you can use. 

Sometimes trying to stop gambling alone can be very difficult and if you have not already it would also be great for you to get some support for your gambling, if you are based in the UK you can contact our helpline anytime of the day or night on 08088020133 or use one of our live chat services on the website! If you are based outside of the UK you can access support through Gordon Moody's gambling therapy chat, where you can chat with one of their advisers who can support you with your gambling, please see here:  https://www.gamblingtherapy.org/.   

I hope you are well. 

Kind regards, 

Fearghal 

Forum Admin. 

Hi

By going to the rooms of recovery you will be able to save your own life from a lot of self inflicted pains..

The recovery program for me was about learning to heal my pains.

The addictions and obsessions just indicate that you are emotionally vulnerable.

If you stick with the recovery program you will learn to live a much healthier life.

For me the addiction was a form of self destruction.

For me the addiction indicated I was not able to heal my pains.

It took me over 20 years in the recovery program to learn how to live a healthy life.

Even in the recovery program it would take some time to understand what my emotional triggers were.

My emotional triggers were my pains I could not heal.

My emotional triggers were my fears I could not face or reduce.

My emotional triggers were my frustrations I could not resolve.

My frustrations were due to unreasonable expectations of people life and situations.

Because of my unreasonable expectations I hurt my self.

My emotional triggers were my boredom due to me not being very productive and mainly procrastinating avoiding getting things done.

My emotional triggers were my feelings of loneliness due to my fears of emotional intimacy.

The casinos, the horses, the dogs and the machines never hurt me I hurt my self.

The gambling establishments never hurt me I hurt my self.

Please keep going to meetings they are a life saver.

It is not healthy to live in pain all of the time.

It is not healthy to live your life as a loner.

Love healing and peace to every one.

Dave L

Dave of Beckenham

Hi Peter

I hope you are ok.

I have been a compulsive gambler on and off for 20 years myself. I have stopped for some time, and in that time I have relapsed once. But, every day is a battle.

I feel your pain, I know firsthand how it feels to be handed down your wages, in cash, and by the time you arrive home nothing is left, because you just happened to pop into one betting shop on the way, and that is all it takes to lose everything you had on you. It's a horrible feeling. You can hardly look at your children's or partner's eyes as you have this burning feeling inside.

Now, friend, what's done is done, please just forget what you lost recently and, BEFORE. That is in the past now. There is nothing you can do about it. Just forget it, just like that. Let this be a new chapter in your life and every penny you earn is valuable and yours. You are not going to chuck it down the drain under the name of fun and entertainment, because they are not, at least not for you and I, and most people in here. Be patient, you know you'll get through the month, and you'll survive as you have done it before, it sounds like you are a hard worker.

Also, please give self-exclusions, Gamstop, and if you are going to the shops, Moses a go. Unfortunately, there is no other way as willpower alone is not enough for us compulsive gamblers. They are not perfect but will stop you when you have stopped for some time and have some money again and start feeling a semblance of positivity about gambling, there is nothing positive about gambling for us.

Finally, please appreciate what you have at present and look after your health. Without your health, you have nothing, and gambling addiction won't mind taking it from you along with your sanity. Concentrate on the present, and let the past go. We can only have control over the present. Choose life, not the misery.

I wish you all the best and take care.

Ergos

@oc0gyh9u3i  thanx it seems no matter how hard I try I always seem to end up gambling I have people around me including family who trigger me on purpose to gamble to them it’s funny but to me I’m inches from ending it all . I’m so tired of never being able to get a good rest because I’m always suffering after gambling . Today is day 1  . my nephew is constantly sending me pictures of gambling and wants to talk about it eventho he knows I have a severe addiction . Gambling is also affecting my mental and physical health , I have bad anxiety , can’t sleep , can’t rest , no money to do anything . 

Hi Peter

Please calm down, and take a deep breath. We've got you, you are in the right place.

Obviously, your nephew is not a good person if he is doing what you say he does. You might need be assertive and give them a warning not to do these things which making your mental health worse. If they don't listen, then you might need to cut them off because they are detrimental to you.

However, I have to say this to you my friend, at the end of the day, it is down to you whether you stop gambling or not. You need to use stopping tools. You need to be proactive. Please give Gamcare a call, they will guide you to right actions. If you stop now, everything else will slowly start improving. But you need to act, initiate. Please do, you have only one life.

Take care and keep safe.

Ergos