I have a problem - there I have said it out loud well technically I havent I have typed it but its the start. It was this morning that I realised I actually have a problem as I have just been paid and now dont have a lot left. I need help and dont quite know where to start hence the reason for being on here.
Anyone got any advise for me ...... need all the help I can get.
Many thanks
Ring the helpline Minnx...That's a great start!
Well done for admitting you need help...It's a very hard thing to do but a vital step in your recovery! Welcome to recovery 🙂
If you can elaborate a bit on your story people are more likely to identify with it & drop by. But the stock answers are all over the site: break your gambling (Time-Money-Location, remove one & you can't gamble) triangle & get some physical support from here (GamCare offer free counselling), GP, GA not forgetting your loved ones. It's hard to come clean but gambling thrives on secrecy so make it harder to do by being honest with people around you!
We cannot win because we cannot stop! The thought of stopping may terrify you (it did me) but it's vital & possible - ODAAT
Ok well I have only been gambling for a couple of months but it has already got out of hand. It all started when my husband left me after 26 years of marriage and our youngest daughter tried to commit suicide, she is 19 and was thank fully not successful in this attempt.
I turned to online slot games and bingo and have on about 3 occassions used all of my salary and then struggled for the rest of the month. I have now self excluded myself from all of the sites but again used up all my salary before self excluding. This month is going to be a struggle and I am not sure what I am going to do yet so any useful advise would be really great. I'm not eating and I'm not sleeping very well and still have to get up and go to work every day and I am really angry and ashamed of myself and that I have let it get so bad in such a short amount of time. I cant tell my husband as he will go mad as he is very much the sort of person I should have been four month ago, if you havent got the money then you cant have it sort of thing. He doesnt own a credit card and gets the cash out if he wants to buy something, he rarely uses his debit card unless it is something online, anyway I feel like I am drowning and its all my own fault!
Looks like both you & your youngest need some help! I'm glad she wasn't successful & I hope she is getting support for her pain too?
I came to this site thinking gambling was all about the money but it rarely is...Gambling will have taken your mind off of how sad you were, how scared of life getting out of control you became & maybe a solution to financial woes? Reality is, when you run out of money, all the problems that were there before are still there, compounded by worries of survival. If you are not eating because you have no money for food, you will need to research food banks in your area...Our local church does referrals because you can't just walk in & help yourself. If it's because your stomach is churning with the "what the hell have I done?" thoughts then pick up the phone & speak to an advisor! If the husband you talk of now is the one that walked out on you then bully for him & his values, he may not be the best person to be judging yourself against! I would seriously recommend coming clean to someone though, do you have a close family member or friend you can turn to? A trip to your GP might be an idea or if not what about a GA meeting where people will understand your fears.
The self exclusions are good but you should also look @ blocking software because I understand there are hundreds of online sites & you can't exclude from them all!
You're scared but you're not drowning, breathe & figure out your next step, you only need to take one @ a time! Personally, I would suggest that step be ringing the helpline, it's what they're there for & they will be much better places to advise you what options you have. You will feel better for doing something - ODAAT
Are you ok? Have you sorted out the problem. New on here and feeling the same. Drowning. In debt. So depressed and feel very alone
ted out the problem. New on here and feeling the same. Drowning. In debt. So depressed and feel very alone
Minxx and Jean, welcome to the forum. Sorry you're both struggling right now. You might want to post something in the Intros section - browse to the New Member Introductions section, scroll to the bottom, and click on 'new topic'. More people are likely to see your post and respond there.
In the meantime we have some advice and links to other organisations who can help with debt problems: http://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-advice/what-can-you-do/finance-and-debt-management
And we can offer you advice and support whether you're having problems with your own gambling or someone else's. Why not give us a call on our helpline 0808 8020 133? or chat to us on the Netline.
Take care
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