Is this really about self-publicising your website? Seems an odd post otherwise

Why does it seem an odd post? Is it not gambling related? Is it not about me overcoming my gambling problem.

What you seem to be using conrad, is a technique based on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)? From my experience in life, it can be a very useful way of approaching issues, including being a CG. Although would add, whilst the technique can be learnt via vbooks, on-line etc. Best via professional means.

I fully understand the point you are making,. It is how you deal with the thoughts and tempataions put in your mind to gamble, set of by "triggers" , such as the book you were reading, TV ad's etc. That is most significant to dealing with being a CG.

Why not start a diary and post your thinking on that? You would lose opening threads linking to your website

Cardhue if my posts aren't to your liking, please ignore them.

Hello Gra60

I heard people reference CGT a fair bit on posts here but I've not researched it any further. I can't remember where I first heard the way of thinking I mentioned but it's a common topic in books I read and videos I watch.

Have you had CGT? I'd be interested to read books on this topic.

Conradnose

Hi Conrad

The technique, but I stand to be corrected. Was originally used in the past, mainly to deal with depression and anxiety issues. My recollection, was/is that there is software on learning the technique. But typically you could/can only access it, via a medical professional referral. There are numerous books on the subject and happily mention one or two, if you wish.

But I sincerely think, speaking as a CG and knowing how gambling can destroy your life. Folks should at first focus on support from professional counsellors, like here on Gamcare and other sites/avenues. Possibly a time for CBT comes when the fundamental issues and consequences of being a CG have been addressed?

Hey Gra60,

Yeah sure 1 step at a time. I'm always learning and trying to understand what's best for me as a CG.

Recommend a couple of books please.

Hi Condrad

New to this forum. So do not wish to upset fellow posters, if they see my posting as endorsing your website.

But for what its worth, have had a very cursory quick glance at it. Maybe Part 1 "How to Stop".

Needs a 6th "thing" added, you should know?

As in, if deep down inside yourself, forgetting all the lies and BS you might tell yourself. If in your heart you really don't want to quit. You never truly will?

ps will not post again on this thread, for reasons outlined above

Hey Gra60

My posts about my blog aren't breaking any Gamcare rules, I don't think you're endorsing my website by replying to this thread.

Yeah thats a great idea. I've been thinking about something similar and perhaps making it a blog post of it's own.

You seem to quite knowledgable Gra60 what's your story? If you don't mind me asking. I can't see that you've posted a thread on here?

Conradnose

Conrad I like your blog and and find it interesting, insightful and helpful and you are also an active member of the GamCare community as I'm sure other forum users would agree.

I have found that time does indeed heal and I can remember my losses to focus on what gambling does. I can think of those losses in a calm way without pain now. In the earlier days it was painful to think of the money lost and I had to use all the thought schemes to remind myself I was still alive and things could only get better. Life isnt always euphoria for many of us but believe me its a d**n sight better with the clear thinking and control to be gamble free Thre is also a process of realising I cant have everything and learning again what is important in life

I am not going to force those memories into complete submission as that would drive me nuts. I let it go and see clearly now that it was like someone else in my body doing those things. I have an understanding of the power of the mind to act against all reason in a self destructive way

I cant rationally explain any of my gambling sessions over the last 40 years other than an addiction and illness having taken over my mind.

I feel that gambling will naturally lead to addiction and the dangers of a legalised gambling industry should be taken far more seriously by society as a whole

Best wishes to everyone on the forum

Do you see your biggest loss as financial? From my experience on the other side of the fence, financial matters but it’s not the biggest loss or the main part of the suffering.

CW