New And lost

Hi Imsolost,

From reading your post i get the feeling that you want the consequences of financial loss to stop but are still not ready to detach from the adrenaline and anticipation that the free play brings. There is a real danger of you gambling with real money if you continue to engage in any physiological form of gambling entertainment - this includes gambling stream on social media platforms. 

I would absolutely tell you that everything will be ok going forward if you are committed to stopping any gambling activity and getting the help to understand your relationship with gambling with professional help and put all the blocks in place. If you are anything less than 100% committed then the future doesn't look great for you. 

Kind regards 

Well this metaphor is great and I have used it before. Imagine you're gambling to digging a hole. The deeper you dig the harder it becomes to come out. There is a great story some here have shared about a man who fell into a hole. It goes like this.

This guy's walking down the street when he falls in a hole. The walls are so steep he can't get out."A doctor passes by and the guy shouts up, 'Hey you. Can you help me out?' The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole and moves on."Then a priest comes along and the guy shouts up, 'Father, I'm down in this hole can you help me out?' The priest writes out a prayer, throws it down in the hole and moves on"Then a friend walks by, 'Hey, Joe, it's me can you help me out?' And the friend jumps in the hole. Our guy says, 'Are you stupid? Now we're both down here.' The friend says, 'Yeah, but I've been down here before and I know the way out.'"

When your system has been hijacked like it has it will play when it is upp and it is down. Your reward system is overriding your options to walk away. You can be happy and play you can be fed up and play some more.

You need 6 weeks clean of this. There are no other good ways to start the journey.

As the story goes above you can not do this alone from the comfort of your sofa. You need to seek others that can help you on your journey. Ask to be helped here by the admin and they will direct you. I recommend CBT, GA, NLP hypnosis There are tools. Just make sure that you are talking to someone who knows a bit about your type of addiction.

Take short steps.

Things have a way of working itself out. Have faith that yours will to and it will.

I wish you well!

Best

C

@walliss77 Thanks for you reply. Brutal and truthful is what I need to hear. I have also been reading a lot on quora about gaming. I have blocked my cards from depositing. I really want the fun back in the games which is what I meant rather than having to keep putting money into it. I enjoyed it at first without putting the money in but I guess once you start, there’s no going back unless you really want to. But I know I really do want to but I do enjoy playing games also. However I have just started crafting and it’s taken my mind away. I also just want to get rid of my phone, which is where it lies. If I didn’t have data, I wouldn’t be able to do it right?! But of course I can’t get rid of my phone as then nobody can get in touch if need be. But as I say, I’ve read through a few on quora and they’ve opened my eyes. I need to remember there is only one winner and at the end of the day, yes I might win something but I know the gambling sites are the real winners. Thanks for your reply! Regards. 

@c43h Hi there, thank you. That story does make sense. And what you wrote about it overriding my options to walk away, it’s true. I’m in the mindset that I will always come back a winner but at the same time, a loser. I have noticed an algorithm with what I win and lose. It might sound weird but it feels like I’m winning back what I lose after a certain amount of time. I used to bet so much but of course these days I am only betting a small amount which I guess in a way I am taking small steps. Not just because I don’t have the money, but because I’ve set a low monthly deposit limit. So I think I must be doing something right by making sure I don’t go over this. I know I still need to stop, but like you said, small steps. I know I can do this. And the more I lose from playing the free games, it is making me not want to log in anymore. I was in touch on live chat and the lady sent me a few things over to have a read-through and said I can do 1to1 with someone who could help. But Monday is nearly here, I'm going to wean myself off them for the week and hopefully, I can do it. Of course, I can’t deposit now as I did block the websites via my bank and I don’t intend to lift it. I have also informed them I have a problem. They haven’t replied yet as it is the weekend. I just wish they’d have noticed before I spent too much. But thank you again for your reply. I really do appreciate it and I know I’m just some random girl who nobody knows on this website so I didn’t expect any replies at all, to be honest. But again, thank you. Regards!