Relapsed Again - Fuming with Myself!!!

hi ... i feel your pain as like you i was incapable of having money in the bank too ... my problem is on line slots & has been for 10 years + and im 31 ..... i hate to think the amount i have lost . for the first time EVER i have not put a penny on in 3 months and why because for the first time ever i have no control or say ... and man i get bored! , so many early nights ha ha ha - but i feel so much better & in control ... and how i did it . EXTREME cold turkey .. cancelled my bank card - explained to my mom i was spending way too much & to have my new card . bit of a pain in the a** when you keep having to ask your mom for your own money out at 31 & also like tonight i thought i had overspent in morrisons ... with no card on me ( but luckily was within budget ! ) obv this will only work for online gambling .. but its done wonders for me .... maybe worth thinking about 😉 xx good luck

Dear "Keeplosing" you say you need a girlfriend. For God's sake don't inflict yourself on any woman till you stop gambling, if you ever do, because she'll be the one who suffers most. You have your private gambling Twilight Zone to escape to. She'll have nothing but years of lies secrecy deceit poverty and heartache.

Thanks for your replies. Yes but she would keep my mind occupied and not think about gambling. It's all about boredom for me. I don't get an urge unless I'm bored.

I've decided to put all my money each month in an account that doesn't have a debit card that way I can't bet online. I would never go into a bookies and put a bet on.

This has been with me for so long, and I have been here hundreds of times, I just don't why I think this will be the last...

I would rather be at work over Xmas than at home bored because it only leads to 1 thing.

Stu

ahaaa ..... you think she would for a while ... then you'd get bored !! believe me .. the amount of times i have sneaked upstairs for an 'early night' with my laptop to lose £££££'s is stupid . i have no control now & for me this is what i need i feel great , im bored and home alone right now & know if i had my bank card id be spinning away . hope the account thing works for you Stuart - good luck to you xx

So "keeplosing", you would be prepared to subject some unsuspecting woman to all the suffering that goes with being with people like you, just to stop yourself from feeling bored!!

Unbelievable.....No not unbelievable, it's what we've had from living with gamblers. I don't believe it's a disease,I believe it's a choice made by utterly utterly selfish people....

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Kristi

I'm not going to comment on previous posts but can't help but comment on your last one which I find pretty unhelpful and disappointing. It's obvious that you've had a bad experience and for that I'm truly sorry - if I could turn back the clock on the misery that I caused my wife and family I would do it in a heart beat.

What starts off as a choice, for a number of reasons can turn into something very very different......and selfishness is about choices.......

I didn't choose to have a mental health issue.

I did choose to gamble - why, I don't know, maybe because of the above and trying to block out the pain of family suicide, my wife's miscarriage or stress at work......or all of them.

I didn't choose for gambling to become an uncontrollable habit.

I didn't choose to be addicted to something that I knew consciously or subconsciously would destroy my life.

I didn't want to make choices that would find me tens of thousands of pounds in debt and living with my parents again.

I did choose to leave my wife to try and protect her from this and pay off the debt with every intention to get the help I need so that if she takes me back I can then give her everything she dreams of.......not cars or holidays or big houses.......but the happiness she deserves with the man she was once in love with.

I have chosen to spend my time on this forum trying to give and receive the support I and others need _ all of us with the same common purpose and goal - to be better people, to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror and not despise what we see and the people we have become........and, whether you like it or not, to be able to have the people we love most in the world be proud of us and more so not to see the hurt in their eyes when we let them down time after time.

Please think about these things before posting again. You may be hurting with just cause and again,for that I am truly sorry, but please don't tar everyone with the same brush.

Mr Brightside

Although I said I wouldn't comment on previous posts - I probably should.......

Keep losing - I can honestly see why ex d and Kristi would be seriously pi55ed at you. You maybe never intended to come across like that or we're a bit tongue in cheek with your comments but you too need to remember that families of gamblers come onto the forum for support in getting through the fall outs from gamblers,

Maybe it's a wall you're putting up too, but you don't really seem that hungry to stop, there's flippancy and arrogance in your posts....as I say, maybe it's a front.

If you truly want to stop them we are here for you and would do almost anything to support you, but be true to yourself and everyone else about whether you do or not. Don't mean to be overly harsh.

Take care and be strong if you really want to end this.

Mr Brightside

Mr B ...

If you want a discussion on the killers lyrics ...pull up a chair..let's talk about " all these things I have done" 😉

To be honest I find some of the comments unbelievable.

I've come on here and said that I need something in my life to crave the boredom - maybe that's a girlfriend. I don't think that's wrong at all. She could have a positive influence in making me stop.

As for not wanting to stop, why am I on here in the first place.

In which case I'm here and wanting to support in any way I can.

Mr Brightside

Maybe you should be focussing on your own issues rather than dragging another person into it.

I not entirely sure what is so "unbelievable " about people getting annoyed upon hearing that another unsuspecting person is about to be used as a switch fix.

If you really want a girlfriend why don't you get some recovery behind you first then you have something to offer her.

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Hi keeplosing im not here to hurt you but I just want to add my experience. My ex husband and I raced into everything untill all of a sudden he started staying up late with the laptop. Turns out he was 'bored'. Same again when I got pregnant. It was. Constant refrain in our house how 'bored' he was. He fills his life with activities and am sure it is a distraction technique but what is ir that he and you are running from. Hopes you can tackle it head on and be happy in your own skin before you meet a partner as they will quite possibly end up suffering otherwise