Why oh why

Hi

Take the fight to them and spend some time tomorrow self excluding from that site. Any others you can even think of self exclude from those as well. Take on the fight in your moments of strength.

You wont regret it. They are just trying to tempt you and I have to say that you are leaving a door wide open on your gadget. Ban them from your life

I understand the issues but get out into the sunshine and try and grab some new aims in life. It really is about finding a new confident you.

I do wish you all the best with it but you must have the blocks on and treat gambling addiction with the fear it deserves. Unfortunately a more casual approach and willpower alone doesnt do it. This is about saving any quality of life you have left.

Lets just say you didnt have that gadget or had proper email blocks on it...you would feel a whole lot better for not getting emails from them or gambling

Thoughts about self esteem can be dealt with. It doesnt matter what people think as long as you have a healthy mindset and are improving in life. Im sure your friends would love to see you.

Anyway take care and best wishes

Thanks Joy. You are very right. I will get on top of the exclusions as best as I can as I feel inspired by your post.

Hello, there is a lot of truth in what Joy says about putting blocks in place. I have self excluded from so many sites in the past but this is the 1st time I've taking the extra step with my wifi. It seemed to me that in moments of weakness I was always able to find a new site to join and in all honesty knew this was the case everytime I tried to stop. I was deliberately leaving myself the option to start again because I needed the buzz when I was down. Funny thing is since I blocked my wifi I haven't even tried to get round it in 2 months and feel so much stronger and happier this time. I know my option would be difficult with others in the house trying to use similar sites but without taking that step I wouldn't have got this far. I really hope you can manage to get things sorted with self excluding it just wasn't a strong enough barrier for me.

its still very early days for me but I'm a much happier person and I really do wish the same for you, getting off this crazy ride is not easy but it's possible.

Daz

Failed again.

How many sites will there be to exclude from. New ones keep popping up. Do ok for a short time, a few weeks, but then it overtakes me again.

No means of support as hubby is a (?!!! Controlled) gambler. Can't let him control my finances as he's worse than me. Nobody else to go to.

If your husband is worse than you, then he can't be a controlled gambler. I'm not too sure that controlled gambling even exists for someone who gambles frequently.

What are you going to do to change your situation?

Or do you want to think that you can't change it therefore it's ok to carry on as you are? Which sounds like the addiction telling you the line that you want to hear. Because any idea that you could change your situation threatens the gambling.

It's not about failure. Nothing changes if nothing changes, nothing had changed so this last bout was probably inevitable. But your hard choice now is what effective changes, if any, are you going to make? What are you going to do to get the support and put up proper barriers? And if your husband doesn't cooperate, will you accept it and carry on with the half measures that are not cutting it?

Hope you do go for it, wish you well.

CW

I really understand what you're going through with the exception of the partner with gambling issues, I spent a year self excluding and then joining new sites when I needed a buzz. Then the terrible feeling the next day and back to self excluding again it's a never ending circle as new sites appear every week. CW is right in what she says without proper help and barriers it will just carry on as with our sort of problem will power usually just isn't enough. No way could I be into my 3rd month of not gambling without my wifi block. It's really hard to offer advice as without your husbands support you can't put proper barriers up. I'm hoping that the counselling may help you but as I've already said if you're like me will power just doesn't work. I really want you to succeed so I'm keeping my fingers crossed you can find the answer. Daz

Hi imuzbebad... This is honestly not intended to be harsh but I know you said that GA wasn't for you as you were uncomfortable being the only woman. Could that uncomfort feel any worse than how you have felt the last 8 years?

Cathy

Have a read of your first ever post from eight years ago.

CW