2019 - Lets do a whole calendar year gamble free!

I have only just started giving up gambling as it has destroyed my family life. I am now trying to turn my life around. I have excluded myself from all betting sites and i was wondering if there is any tips anyone could give me to not gamble ever again

Sean1 wrote:

Hi guys

Yes all lads Bella, when some lads we get together then there is no stopping them. Only this morning at the gym one of the blokes had just split up from his mrs and he thought it would be ok to show all his mates pics of her nude.......... errrrrrr

Keep strong over the weekend guys.

Shaun

Definately not okay... She's well shot of him isn't she. Maybe he will grow up, God help the next girl.

Gamble free weekend enjoy hunni..
My weekend is cinders its washing, drying and rolling clothes to put into drawers of my new unit, boxing up stuff to go under the bed. So all fun and happy songs for this weekend.

I went to poundland yesterday.. Was fun spent £23 of utter nonsense but still enjoyed the visit. Not been there in years. Speak on Monday.

Bella xx

Self Sufficient Stephen wrote:

Shaun I think your unnecessarily giving men a bad name there.

It would take a very sad individual to do something like that be it male or female. The person in question is not only spiteful and malicious but is also committing a criminal act.

He should be reported to the gym management and also the police... stephen

I think lovely, you missed what he was answering to, I asked Shaun was the wives going or all lads, he was answering that, then went onto answer something else.

And no worries love, I've been on this planet long enough to know not all men are the same, I've got some amazing male friends. Sean just adding a snapshot of what can happen with the lads he's going on holiday with.

How are you doing Stephen? Xx

Cliffharris82 wrote: I have only just started giving up gambling as it has destroyed my family life. I am now trying to turn my life around. I have excluded myself from all betting sites and i was wondering if there is any tips anyone could give me to not gamble ever again

Hello.. Firstly why not add a intro, then add a diary, introduce yourself. And then people can help better. But welcome to the forum, hope you have a gamble free weekend.

What helped me is Shaun recommended a brilliant book by a author called Allen Carr (not the presenter) a book called Easyway - How to stop Gambling. It's a brilliant book. Explains what a con gambling is. If you read all of Sean1 posts he quotes part of the book it may really help you this weekend.
Goodnight speak tomorrow.
Bella xx

Thank you bella for the advice, so here goes.
Hi all i am a 37 year old male, I have two lovely children.
I have a wife.
I have a full time job and i manage a team of 6 and we specialise in repairing and stopping buildings falling down.

I have been gambling for a few years now and i used to go into the bookies but it was mainly to play the roullette machines im not really into the horses or football because i have never really won anything when betting on them.

I cant remember why i stopped going to them but i did and the only time i went in was when me and the familiy would do grand national.

I then found online gambling with roullete and jackpot machines, this i liked because i could win big money.
This is what got me going but the problem was the more i new i might win big there more i played and the more money i put on, i even started playing with household bill money thinking i could win back what i lost nefore my family would find out and when that did not work i was getting loans out to pay the bills, then when i eventually got paid again i would bet my wages thinking i could win big enough to pay the bills and loans off but this did not work so eventually i couldn't get more loans and on the 15th January 2019 when i got paid i used it all on gambling and did not win a penny stupid i know.

I had own up to my family that i have put them at risk of losing the house, bills not being paid and i am in £4000 of debt.

As you can imagine this has not gone down well i have been kicked out of the house and have had to sign the council house over to her so i am not allowed back she is getting help with her rent and things. She wants £650 a month for the kids from me which is a lot of money but i have caused the s**t im in so i will give them that. I am homeless at thd moment i sleep in my truck and occasionally if there is a sofa spare i sleep on it.

Me and the wife dont get on anymore, we didnt get on great in the first place but i have just made things worse i am allowed to see my kids at weekends.

Any helpful tips on how to sort my life out would be great.

I am new to this so if i am doing anything wrong than please just let me know.

Cliffharris82 wrote: Thank you bella for the advice, so here goes. Hi all i am a 37 year old male, I have two lovely children. I have a wife. I have a full time job and i manage a team of 6 and we specialise in repairing and stopping buildings falling down. I have been gambling for a few years now and i used to go into the bookies but it was mainly to play the roullette machines im not really into the horses or football because i have never really won anything when betting on them. I cant remember why i stopped going to them but i did and the only time i went in was when me and the familiy would do grand national. I then found online gambling with roullete and jackpot machines, this i liked because i could win big money. This is what got me going but the problem was the more i new i might win big there more i played and the more money i put on, i even started playing with household bill money thinking i could win back what i lost nefore my family would find out and when that did not work i was getting loans out to pay the bills, then when i eventually got paid again i would bet my wages thinking i could win big enough to pay the bills and loans off but this did not work so eventually i couldn't get more loans and on the 15th January 2019 when i got paid i used it all on gambling and did not win a penny stupid i know. I had own up to my family that i have put them at risk of losing the house, bills not being paid and i am in £4000 of debt. As you can imagine this has not gone down well i have been kicked out of the house and have had to sign the council house over to her so i am not allowed back she is getting help with her rent and things. She wants £650 a month for the kids from me which is a lot of money but i have caused the s**t im in so i will give them that. I am homeless at thd moment i sleep in my truck and occasionally if there is a sofa spare i sleep on it. Me and the wife dont get on anymore, we didnt get on great in the first place but i have just made things worse i am allowed to see my kids at weekends. Any helpful tips on how to sort my life out would be great. I am new to this so if i am doing anything wrong than please just let me know.

Hi Cliff,

Like Bella said start your own diary on here and it’s good for you to read back and remember this place in your life that gambling has brought you too. You will also be able to get advice and support off us and other people on here. You’ve got to realise that your wife is extremely upset and has every reason to be. It’s not just the money you’ve wasted but it all so sounds like your relationship has broken down and this will be because of the gambling and the bubble you have been trapped in. But no longer are you going to be in that as you are here and want to stop gambling. Prove it to your wife that you realise the consequences of your actions and that you want to change. Most of all prove it to yourself you want to stop gambling, the only person who can do that is you. I see things are pretty messed up at the moment especially with being kicked out. You’ve hit one of the worst three places gambling taking you and that’s being homeless. I’m sorry to hear that. But things will get better even if it doesn’t feel like it right now once you’ve stopped gambling. The best advice I can give you is to join GA look on the website and you will be able to find your local meeting. Here you will get advice, support, empathy and will gain a whole new perspective on life. There will be people there who have been in the same situation as you due to gambling being homeless and they will be able to advise on what help you can get. Try Gamcare helpline too they should be able to point you in the right direction. I wish you all the best and will post on your diary once started.

Take care

OAU

Massive congratulations Shaun on 140 days gamble free.

It has been good to follow your recovery and I have always admired your positive attitude. You have a good understanding of the challenges we all face and have always been there to offer help and support to your fellow travellers.

I wish you contentment, happiness and a sense of fulfillment as you continue on your journey of discovery ... Stephen

I personally it is a brutal truth but think Vegas would possibly be a terrible idea unless u tell all your mates of your problems so they know u cant gamble. But then Vegas is all about gambling its like if u were an alcoholic and went on a stag do. Ive had to turn down four stag doos with close mates and I know how difficult it is. But its for the best.

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Hi guys

Plenty of comments, all good.

Cliff, it would be a good idea like some have said to start your own diary. There is no magic formula for stopping gambling - otherwise we wouldn’t be on here. The Allen Carr book is a very good starting point and so is GA, but for me it’s down to the individual, they have to really want to stop for this journey to be a success. Good luck.

Thanks Stephen, always nice to hear positive words.

Adam, thanks for input, that’s why I put the idea on here so I can gauge peoples opinions as I never have been to Vegas.

Message for the day, we will see lows, see highs and these are all part of the journey, nothing in life that you really want is simple, so we will all dig deep and keep gambling away all times.

Shaun

Cliffharris82 wrote: Thank you bella for the advice, so here goes.
Hi all i am a 37 year old male, I have two lovely children.
I have a wife.
I have a full time job and i manage a team of 6 and we specialise in repairing and stopping buildings falling down.

I have been gambling for a few years now and i used to go into the bookies but it was mainly to play the roullette machines im not really into the horses or football because i have never really won anything when betting on them.

I cant remember why i stopped going to them but i did and the only time i went in was when me and the familiy would do grand national.

I then found online gambling with roullete and jackpot machines, this i liked because i could win big money.
This is what got me going but the problem was the more i new i might win big there more i played and the more money i put on, i even started playing with household bill money thinking i could win back what i lost nefore my family would find out and when that did not work i was getting loans out to pay the bills, then when i eventually got paid again i would bet my wages thinking i could win big enough to pay the bills and loans off but this did not work so eventually i couldn't get more loans and on the 15th January 2019 when i got paid i used it all on gambling and did not win a penny stupid i know.

I had own up to my family that i have put them at risk of losing the house, bills not being paid and i am in £4000 of debt.

As you can imagine this has not gone down well i have been kicked out of the house and have had to sign the council house over to her so i am not allowed back she is getting help with her rent and things. She wants £650 a month for the kids from me which is a lot of money but i have caused the s**t im in so i will give them that. I am homeless at thd moment i sleep in my truck and occasionally if there is a sofa spare i sleep on it.

Me and the wife dont get on anymore, we didnt get on great in the first place but i have just made things worse i am allowed to see my kids at weekends.

Any helpful tips on how to sort my life out would be great.

I am new to this so if i am doing anything wrong than please just let me know.

Aww love,
That's awful, so sorry your at such a low moment in life. Work on your blessings, you still get to see the kids, and still have your job. And sofa surfing isn't so bad. Create your own diary and I will subscribe to it, then I can check in on you. Ring this sites helpline they will give you the base for where to begin. Come chat every day, set your diary up and gamble free takes a while. First 28 days it's torture I found, as the demons keep on giving signs like a kids cartoon for example.
Put your name down on a housing list and start bidding for flats. That will help if you have a home to go to.
Do something great for you. Stop chasing rainbows.
Much love
Bella.

Hope you are okay Shaun.
See you soon xx

Hi guys

So we continue on this gamble journey together, constantly supporting one another. Life is tough enough without piling on the extra pressure of gambling.

We will not place that first bet and we will not question our decision to stop gambling.

Shaun

I have been extremely busy at work lately but i now have a chance to start my diary.

Today was the first day that i woke up feeling happier than what i have been, i am staying with my brother inlaw until i can get back on my feet he has been a great help and a great mate.

Me and my wife are talking better now which is good.

I miss my kids alot but this is my own stupid fault but i get to see them a weekends so i am really looking forward to tomorrow.

I did have a text message from my wife saying sky has been cut off today which is my fault due to gambling.
I will pay for it to be turned back on when i get paid on the 15th.

I do think about gambling but not that i want to play but that how it has messed my life up and now all i want to do is put things right.

Hi Cliff

Use the feelings of what gambling has done to you and turn it into anger against the gambling industry. The gambling industry use clever con tricks into stealing money away from us, the industry does not care if you have split from the mrs, if your kids go without or your sky has been cut off.

The industry will simply drain you until you are done and move on to the next sucker.

This is were we will box clever, we aren’t going to be that next sucker, we will not be conned because that is what it is, no different to highway men robbing people back in the day.

Take care, well done on 17 days and don’t ever question your decision to stop.

Shaun

Hi guys

Another Saturday is upon us, how I wasted many a Saturday, running from bookie to bank to bookie to bank. Chasing my lost monies, wagering hundreds and hoping, preying to just go home with what I started with. Not forgetting the anguish, sweating, palpitations, panic and not eating for 8 hours.

When you read it like that sounds ludicrously stupid but when we are in ‘that gambling coma’, all the above seems quite rational.

If we take a step back then we realise we weren’t just silly people but quite selfish in our behaviour.