Back to stay

Hi S&B yes I’ve self excluded, only trouble with k9 you need someone to set the password don’t you? I will look at that too though. Your so right about the counselling I’m actually seeing a counsellor we had a break last November until today and I’ve been telling her how much I want to stop gambling, she’s helped loads and I feel more able to deal with it now, and help and support on here is invaluable. I feel for the first time in years I can actually do this. She taught me today ways of how to deal with the urges etc and said do we agree that I’ll self exclude from that site I said yes I explained to her I get anxiety ‘losing my coping mechanism’ she explained to me loads how our brain works and how I can deal with it, I’ll share on here too what she teaches me it could help someone else. Thanks S&B for being there x

Hi Stephen well that’s a great thought lol I am a tiger, yes I’ll take it away lol. Thanks for the smile X

Hope everyone is good x so right back at the beginning but never lasted long all other times anyway. My counselling session today was brilliant as well as posts on her so thank you everyone for being there. I feel the most positive I have done in a long long while that I can actually stop. I know without a doubt I need a blocker and have narrowed it down I think to Betfilter, but am looking into k9 too. Why is it so bloody hard though to get stuff to help you quit! And the sheer amount of online sites is scary. Wish I’d never got internet the amount of money I would have saved I’d be set up now. Anyway I’m not quitting quitting want my life back thanks again everyone it’ll be one day tonight that’s amazing to me

Yay 1 day gf now that feels good but the urges coming thick and fast, trying to put what my counsellor says to do so immediately cane on here. Need that blocker too. First thought when I woke up was has that £11 gone into my bank account so I can gamble then remembered I’d self excluded so can’t. I can search for a new site but this is when I put my counselling into practice. I can do this

Struggling big time found an account opened but never went in because it hasn’t the slots I know! How sad is that that I’ll do it now just so I can gamble! Self excluding now so no temptation hopefully that’s the only one left open! This is sooo hard. Battling within myself and the anxiety of not gambling. Just trying to remember what my counsellor said but really struggling now

Did it! Didn’t gamble just excluded! I actually did it! So proud of myself

I’m in a roll just immediately self excluded from another that was still open and not used. I feel depressed but happy at same time and proud of myself. I still need the blocker as I know I’ll get weaker times but for now I’m strong and have done something I never could see myself doing for years. I have a bit of money in my account too yet I did not gamble so proud of myself

Shows how much counselling can help

Hi Lulu.

Well done on self excluding! You do need that blocker in place ASAP tho. Can you ask a friend you trust to put the password in?. That's all it takes.

I'm glad to read that counselling is helping and you're putting coping mechanisms in practice.

Go that little extra mile with blocks or even handling financial control over for your own peace of mind. This will work if YOU work it ☺

Stay safe - just for today

Xx

Hi SJB thanks for your post I’ll ask a friend to do it for me I think I definitely need the blocker, after self excluding from those two sites an email popped up from another in spam folder where I’d sent it and I had a small slip £10 would have been more had I had it so glad that’s all I had, felt gutted all my hard work and being proud of myself disappeared it made me self exclude straight after obviously I’d lost the £10. A’s it was still gambling I’m going back to 0 days again really P...ed off at myself.

Day one nearly done to be honest after my slip I’ve not thought much about gambling as was so disappointed in myself when I was doing so well. I felt so proud of myself, that’s starting to come back a bit now though as I’ve not even thought about, let alone attempted to try and find some other site. That’s been my pattern for so long losing loads money then self excluding then regretting self excluding then desperately searching for a new site thinking my luck could change. Crazy viscous circle but today I’ve broken that circle so I do feel slightly proud of myself. I’ve also been busy though so not much time to think of gambling. Going to ask my friend this week when we meet up if she’ll put that password in for me for K9. That’s my only option at moment GamBan don’t do iOS and I haven’t the money for Betfilter also the Apple account is linked to my husbands bank account so he’d wonder why I wanted that. I’ve told a friend about my gambling but not my husband and I’m not either it would finish us. I will make it up one day. Day 1 nearly done

Hello Lulubobs,

Its good to see you back on here trying even if you are finding things hard. I know you have had a tough time the last few months but you can make your situation a little better by helping yourself out on the gambling front.

Get them blocks nice and tight to take some of the pressure off yourself. If you can make it near impossible (there is always a way if we really want it gamble) then that'll make dealings with it a little easier. Its so much harder when you feel like you have to say "no" to each urge rather than feel like you just couldn't gamble if you tried.

Maybe you can try this? (i haven't tried it myself)

http://www.gamcare.org.uk/forum/betfilter-currently-available-free

doingHi sjw thank you I’ve had a quick look but really struggling to understand it it also says I need a friend or family member to assist so when I see my friend I’ll ask her to help we will try K9 too. Thanks for taking time to post the link x doing quite well with urges but I know they’ll come back in a weaker moment. So this would be great thank you x Day 2! And feeling really positive:-).

Weak moment went on a site to see if I had been blocked as didn’t think had been, one of the games on there I am so very addicted to as had big win once not so long ago obviously lost it all the game was so very addictive but I have been blocked thank god the self exclusion is working well but want that proper block see my friend today or tomorrow will get it sorted then. It’s so very very hard I wish I’d never got the internet I really do, how many lives have been destroyed by online gambling? The internet is fab but too many companies are able to exploit people. It makes me so angry that the government don’t do anything because they benefit from ppl gambling. There’s so many cgs now so the government must be getting shitloads of money yet the nhs is struggling, homelessness etc etc whose pocketing all that money after the online sites cos the ppl in this country sure aren’t getting any! Makes you wonder rant over