Dark horse I can totally relate to your story.
9 years ago this very week I was in a similar situation to you and was gambling all my money and up to my eyeballs in debt.
Was supposed to go on holiday with my mates and while going into town to get my euros I gambled everything. I then had to turn to My mates the day before I left and tell them I couldn't go.
It was then I owned up to everyone and got help.
9 years on Ive had a small fall , gambled again and got a wee bit of debt but I've also just returned from a family holiday which has done me the world of good and helped to clear my head.
I hope your holiday has the same effect.
My advise to you would be firstly be honest and tell everyone you have a problem. People will be angry at first but they'll help you.
Secondly give up control of your bank card and let someone run your finances
And thirdly take heart from me knowing that you can overcome this, enjoy your holiday as much as you can, your lucky you got on yours unlike me 🙂
I wish you well and will keep an eye on how your doing.
killieboy wrote: Dark horse I can totally relate to your story. 9 years ago this very week I was in a similar situation to you and was gambling all my money and up to my eyeballs in debt. Was supposed to go on holiday with my mates and while going into town to get my euros I gambled everything. I then had to turn to My mates the day before I left and tell them I couldn't go. It was then I owned up to everyone and got help. 9 years on Ive had a small fall , gambled again and got a wee bit of debt but I've also just returned from a family holiday which has done me the world of good and helped to clear my head. I hope your holiday has the same effect. My advise to you would be firstly be honest and tell everyone you have a problem. People will be angry at first but they'll help you. Secondly give up control of your bank card and let someone run your finances And thirdly take heart from me knowing that you can overcome this, enjoy your holiday as much as you can, your lucky you got on yours unlike me 🙂 I wish you well and will keep an eye on how your doing.
Thank you for sharing your story! I ended up going but my holiday was really short from the gambling debts. 175 euros only covered food, taxi. But I'm glad I went since I'm remembering the value of money. Whereas before everything looked like digits on the screen. Right now do not have any urge to gamble hope it remains this way. I only have 25 euros left!
At least you went and like u said learnt value of money. I went and took my son to arsenal game as we're gooner and sad is all I could think is like we went one up then player sent I kept thinking if a player got sent then I would always back other team but cause I was with my son I wouldn't and can't gamble Im on hol next week I look forward to being away x
Christer1 wrote: At least you went and like u said learnt value of money. I went and took my son to arsenal game as we're gooner and sad is all I could think is like we went one up then player sent I kept thinking if a player got sent then I would always back other team but cause I was with my son I wouldn't and can't gamble Im on hol next week I look forward to being away x
I am really struggling with this addiction right now. I relapsed once coming back from holiday, I was £200 up then lost the majority of it and was £30 up. I stopped until Betstars who I was gambling with then withdrew my cash into the wrong bank account and not the account I deposited from leading me to become overdrawn in my overdraft - I am now being charged £5 a day. That triggered me to gamble more from panicing so that I could cover the cost from being overdrawn, I then went onto lose my winnings and maxing out my Credit card by losing a further 200 pounds.
I am now 3.5k in the red including Pay day loans. Feel very depressed and angry at betstars as well as myself. I am going to make an active effort to post here.When I complained to Betstars they just put the blame on me for not notifying them that the money was withdrawn to the right account when I had no control of it since they have an automatic withdrawal system. It seems as though even if you are up, the bookies have a way to mess up your finances.
Of course, the more desperate I became the more likely that my picks would lose.
Currently counting down the days to pay day rather than enjoying my bank holiday weekend
Day 1:
Sigh. Not thinking about gambling, actually literally do not have any money so couldn't do it anyway. Gambling is such a waste of time and money.
Day 2:
I have just been paid and have no urges to gamble.
I have just paid my payday loans off, feels like a massive weight lifted off my shoulders. Since I have paid them back early I have paid very little interest for each - still not a great situation to be in and felt like a close shave.
I have reduced my debt from -3297 to -2156. 2 more pay checks will get me back in the black. Overdraft is nearly maxed out, Credit card is maxed out.
So for the following month, I am house bound except for going to work. Betting isn't worth it.
Day 3:
i have no urge to gamble. It is helping a lot by not looking at the odds and following sports.
The urge has been replaced by anger for gambling and getting myself into this situation in the first place. I'm starting to feel like my old self pre gambling days.
That is the best way to look at odds is in anger. I got paid before I went on hol and managed to have bet but stay even hut know I would of gone stupid on Roland garris but glad I'm not home stay calm it goes worse before better
Christer1 wrote: That is the best way to look at odds is in anger. I got paid before I went on hol and managed to have bet but stay even hut know I would of gone stupid on Roland garris but glad I'm not home stay calm it goes worse before better
Good - betting isn't worth it. The anxiety, stress, yesterday I did not sleep all night from anxiety of not knowing when I would pay my payday loans off and went to work dead tired. Not only am I poorer, my health has been affected - gambling gives you the illusion that you are making a lot of money, but in reality you are losing a lot.
You also do not want to get involved with payday loans, credit rating has taken a hit in the last month and even after paying them off they are spamming me with emails/text messages so that I take out more loans.
Day 4:
No real urges to gamble except flirting with the idea of placing a bet out of boredom which I will not do. Seem to be doing a lot better this time round. My overall interest in sports is fading. Not following news on the NBA, Tennis, baseball etc
Day 5:
I had a dream last night where I was doubling my bets on the NBA basketball and on the verge of losing. I woke up startled, then realised that it was only a dream. Phew. A reminder of how bad betting is.
No urges today to gamble, though, I'm a bit depressed from literally having no money to spend! my life is literally work, come home where I am taking pack lunches to work. I am counting down the days till pay day.
Day 6:
No urge to gamble. NBA finals have started...Helps a lot nba play offs are on late so cant watch them!
Day 7
No urges. My first week gamble free for a long time! Feels good!
Day 8:
NBA on last night, did not gamble. I have no urges to bet. This is the longest I've been gamble free for over half a year. Feels good but at the same time wish I had this level of will power before.
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