Hey.... I know that like me, you've wasted massive amounts of money gambling. For me, pretty much all I had is gone and I had a lot. I'd hate to see you in the same predicament as me.... wondering how to feed myself, nevermind having money to go to the pub! Please try to do whatever you can to stop the bleed now. I know you're hurting but it can and will get worse if you let it. I don't want to sound like a downer instead of encouraging but I am very familiar with that maniacal state. Anyway... here for you regardless and wishing us all strength!
Thanks so much, Defeated. Yes, I am pretty low at the mo. I have to get ready for work now and much as I wish I could just lay on the couch all day, it's probably a blessing. Your support means a lot. More later. You be good!
You have time? hmmm.... that could be dangerous for you (I am assuming here, because time on my hands often spells disaster for me). What are you going to do with yourself? Promise me you will not gamble?!!
Time on your hands might not be such a good thing.... What will you do with yourself all day? I hope you aren't gambling? Do you go to GA?
????? Don't disappear again! Where are you?
hey.... You're still on my mind. C'mon, buddy. Show yourself....This lady is getting worried again!
Waitin' for you to return! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvU4CC6s2e4
Hi Defeated... hope you are still popping in here from time to time. Thanks for your post to me from a while back and sorry I took so long to respond to your post... been on a bit of a downward spiral myself. In your post to me, you wondered "Is gambling the symptom or the cause?" and "Does it matter?" I don't believe it matters... all that matters is the "treatment" or "management" of the problem, at least in the short term. And yes, you do have to "want to change" and believe that change is possible. Of course, the key is not to give up. Yes, it's hard but I think if we can get to the point where we "get it" or we have some success, then it gets easier and easier.... at least, that's what I'm hoping and also what I glean from others' posts who have had success in the battle of addictions. Still rootin' for you and hoping you'll come back and start posting again.
And again you call out to me, what have i ever done for you? Really appreciate it Carla always do.
At the moment going through the usual compulsive gambler cycle of give up gamble give up gamble. Never ending.
No responsibility now just me (apart from weekends) and when i loose (£600 on Sunday) i don’t really care. Just add it to the pile of debts.
I have been to GA in the past (4 separate time over two years) think the longest i have abstained for is 4/5 months. When i first admitted my problem on Gamcare did nearly 6 months, was really positive really enjoyed the community support, typical honey moon period. I know it can be done, but i know im not commited. Whats the point? Just lying to myself again.
Positive points my children love me and i have good access.
I have a job, and physical health.
I know this is self pitying nonsense and im the one that has to turn every thing round. After all who cares? I’m choosing to abuse myself end of.
But when I’m gambling i don’t care that much.
I care. And I can certainly relate to those feelings but you have to know that gambling messes with our minds and distorts our thinking. Yes, your kids love you and no doubt there are others who do also but what people like you and me need to learn is how to love ourselves. As a friend of mine once said, "we are all works in progress". Don't give up, Defeated! Do whatever you can to change that mindset because it can and will get worse.... believe me... as I'm dealing with the phone calls from the banks because I've gone so far into debt and this time couldn't even make minimum payments. I'm willing you to fight!
Hi defeated
Can I ask a favour...Can you change your username. You see I believe part of the process of 'defeating' this addiction is positivity. And by having a negative username you are not giving it your best to defeat it. Also, you have not been defeated. Far from it. You are still here fighting, ranting, commenting, and I believe as you do that you want to become gamble free. You have to start looking at this in a different way. Everyday is a small battle and life is the war. Everyday you don't gamble you win a small battle, and occasionally you will lose a battle but you are still fighting the war!
So you have yet to be defeated so keep going. Fight tomorrows battle and win. Then get up on Saturday and fight that battle and win. But keep going......do not give up and keep fighting.
I haven't had a chance to read all the posts but the ones I have read ring true to me. Especially the comfort blanket comment. So find a new comfort blanket that isn't gambling. Something you enjoy that wont cause so much anguish and pain.
You have to post tomorrow and let me know how your doing. And I want to hear you have won the latest battle. The more battles you win the closer to the war being won!!
Good luck
Craig
Hey there.... And I have to agree with Craig's post. Change that name to reflect something more positive. Sorry, but I can't post much now as I've brought work home again but I will soon. I am hanging in but dreading the 30th when my pay comes in..... THIS TIME, I have to wise up!
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