Gambling please stop

Hiya mike, well done to you for coming here x i am fairly new here to but you are definitely not alone in how you feel x

read others diaries and you will see that you can do this x have you thought about counselling? Is there any one you could ask to look after your finances for a while?

think about what you would like to fill your time with x

definitely come here and read others posts when you get the urge to gamble.

congratulations on taking the first step x

Laura x

Hi Mike. Welcome. CG is an addiction, the more you do it the more it takes over....the longer you go without the clearer your life becomes and you can begin to enjoy other things and tackle the 'reasons' this has taken over your life. I am in my second week on here and writing in my diary, reading others, and trying to be honest and responsible for what's going on with me is helping. I say 'responsible' because I think part of the problem is that it's too easy to say 'it's taken control' or 'I can't help it' or 'it's because this happened to me, or that happened to me...'. That is what I was doing, and whilst there are definitely external triggers I am looking to the internal ones - the feelings, which I know only I can deal with. As the days pass and I begin to face up to the mess, I still have times when I know I'd be back there if I didn't have blocks in place;- so, try to remove the opportunity (take away the money and/or the cards depending on what your choice of gambling is, self-exclude from EVERYWHERE, put blocks on your computer, don't be alone too much, keep very very busy with other things....). I wish you well....don't let yourself waste any more of your life on this compulsion, take control. Every time you gamble you make a choice - make the right choice from now on. xxx

Mike

Welcome to the forum,a place full of like minded folk who all share a common goal,that they came to the realisation that their gambling had become something destructive and beyond their control,causing financial and emotional carnage.

This is the first step towards recovery,to admit we need help,it takes great courage to admit we lost,something addiction all to often makes us hide,makes us feel ashamed of our losses.

The truth is the odd's are staked against a gambler who is not compelled to gamble on,for us to wage our money on an event of which the outcome we have no control of the outcome of and then if we win we simply relentlessly gamble on,all to often until nothing remains.

Gambling beat me up,it won,I gifted it all I had to give and all to often more and it took it,I played like you I gambled on many things,in fact anything!!

There is no shame in admitting my defeat,in truth the only shame would come if I went back at it,the outcome would be the same

I CANNOT WIN BECAUSE I CANNOT STOP.

In the first day's of recovery put some practical things into place to stop you accessing that next bet

The advice that helped me do so,still works today

There is a triangle

Time-Money-Location

Take one away at all times and the punt becomes impossible,gifting the rational side of the brain time to think,to over ride addiction

To ultimately reverse that mantra

You win by not having a bet,each day you make the choice to arrest the punt you continue winning.

Be kind to yourself addiction hate's it.

Most of all enjoy it

You are doing something amazing

Duncs stepping forward never back