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Just been to a Safe Harbor meeting. Someone shared what gambling had done to them. A painful story and as of next week a criminal record. Job and home gone and just world of anxiety and pain, depression and suicidal thoughts.

I wish I could have posted a transcript of the ladys share. I would have liked some here to read it.

A gamble free Easter to you all.

Morning G,

Yes, those stories are just around the corner for all of us cg's. It's where it can take us if we allow it to.

When we were in chat the other day and that guy had gambled £8k after 4 years free...really shook me up that did G. Not the amount of money but the fact that it could return after such a long time.

We won't let it get at us again. No way!

Have a lovely Easter

Jas xx

That was a very good point please keep an eye on my dairy i what to be happy fed up having no money due to gambling !

Hi Graham

thanks for popping by on my diary, bet your last post hit a few nerves mate.. shows how destroying gambling can be and its very sad, heartbreaking and soul destroying! Will pop into a SH meeting soon, i got alot of inspiration and motivation from some wise people.

as always i wish you well mate and hope you are well. ands

Hey my friend

It is always hard to hear someone speak out what we have been through ourselves, maybe not as deep, but still the same shxt.

This desease/illness/ addiction...whatever you want to call it, is so very devastating, once it has you in it's grip. And people without an addictive behaviour often just don't understand. They cannot fathom how difficult it is to put the addiction down. They say...well..if this it what it does to you...just stop...

Oh boy..how I wish it was that simple.

But thanks to people like you and the ones on this site and on other sites, there is one thing we all gain.... Hope... there is light at the end of the tunnel...it can be done...not by oneself, but together..it can be done. We are all like a giant clockwork; each of us is a little piece of it and only together we can work, not one piece is more important than the other. Even the littlest(shyest) piece needs to be there to function and will through the encouragement of the other pieces.

Let us all be the bestest clockwork we can be.

Love and hugs to you ((((Graham)))) for being part of my clockwork.

God Bless

Charly/Sabine

Oh it`s sometimes with sadness that I read posts. A little share if you please. Call me mad ( I do ) but it seems to me that gambling is real symptom of of the last 10 years or so. That conclusion is reached by what has been going on around us.

The celeb culture. Awarding talentless people for nothing. A bit like bankers bonuses. In a world turned upside down homes have become unaffordable for many, yet 10 or so years ago, that wasn`t the case.

When I look at people in my own family that feel hard done by if they can`t take at least a couple of holidays abroad each year, it makes me wonder.

I often wonder where all this has come from. Greed supports gambling. Funnily enough, that never was my game plan. I only ever played for relief of negative feelings. Really, someone who played £25 payout slots is hardly going to make their fortune but play them I would. Didn`t seem like a lot but spread sheet it. Over 20 years of all the cash I wasted it runs into 10,s of thousands. More than enough to have kept my business going.

I see gambling as a beast that has developed and flourished over recent times. I also see it as part of the malaise of our so called society. I find that all the adverts for gambling is part of the double standards of the world we live in.

To you young folk I would say don`t get sucked into all this rubbish. It is bad. No one but the providers of gambling make any money. Get out now. Even if you have lost a lot of cash, you have time to rebuild.

Anyway, sermon over. Take care guys.

You are so very kind G....reaching out to everyone and using your experience to help as much and as many as you can.

Totally agree with you about society. I have been swept up in this greedy money motivated culture. I get friends saying..."where you going on your holidays?", "when you changing that car?", "where you going for Easter?", "what you doing for your daughter's 21st?" and on and on it goes G. Thanks to gambling i have absolutely nowt to do anything really....a blessing in disguise????

I am trying to break this cycle.....this accepted behaviour of greed just isn't right!

It is constant pressure.

I really relate to you.

I will be keeping a constant eye on my girlies. I have learnt so much from here and you of course.

Jas x

Hi Graham

Didn't get much of a chance in chat earlier. Internet connection failed just after your greeting!

Have just read through your diary as you always seem to be able to come up with little snippets that trigger something or just help to make more sense of things.

Specifically your last post. Talentless celebs is a phrase I've used more than once. Seems as a nation we've lost all sense of the value of money,not helped with all the hype in the press. This of course is reflected in the gambling of many of us I suppose.

Will try and catch up in chat soon.

Take care.

M

Hi Graham

Just popping by to say hi, hope you are well and the sun is shining down there in the SW, interesting last post!

Anyway mate all the best and take care, ands

hi Graham just popped in to say Hi and to give you the link you asked for in the chatroom http://moorendsfm.listen2myradio.com

Graham, thanks for taking the time to post that link on my diary.

Scunnered

Hi my friend

Just popped in to say "Hi"

Have been rather busy lately, although I should never be too busy to say hello to my friends. It's on my list for things to amend in Sabine's life.

I liked you last post and agree with it... Society had turned into a "Who can I screw over and what benefit is that to me society"

Not many care about what goes on right under their noses or within their neighbourhood.

It is such a shame...people want more and more material things, rather than be happy with what they have...family, health, a roof over their head, food in their belly, warmth and a chance to make amends...how wonderful...

I have gone back to basic and enjoy little things in life. The school run I do now shows me every day just how fortunate I really am. With my life, that of my children and my family. The children I see are disabled and have such joy with simple things in life, they have opened my eyes.

One day you and I my friend will meet for that cup of coffee.

Sending Love and Hugs to you and yours.

God Bless

Sabine x

Hello again cyber dad.

Had to go back few pages to find your diary, nice catching you earlier, i have lost your email address, if you have mine still drop me an email, be nice to catch up! (if you want that is)

Thanks as always for popping by on my diary, always nice to read, and a bit of brotherly love is sweet, thanks........ take care mate and all the best to you. andrew

We are a close family albeit small. Just before Christmas my wifes sister was going through problems we her husband. A seemed sorted until yesterday. He confessed that he was still seeing the other woman and no longer loved my sis-in-law. Oh this is a BIG mess.

He has gone but the emotional thing is one thing but also it leaves massive practical problems. There are 2 grown up kids at home with little chance of them affording to move out. They are in a very expensive area.

Sis-in-law earns very little and won`t be able to keep up with the bills. Husband is doing the " it`s my house " routine so that is not going to be helpful. Currently he is homeless and it`s looking like fairly friendless.

I think everyone forgave him when this last happened, it was the same other lady, but I can`t see this happening this time.

Sis-in-law is calling tonight so we will wait and see.

Hi Graham,

Its so sad when this kind of thing happens to a family. Hope your sister-in-law is seeking legal advice on her situation... the sooner the better.

It must be difficult for you and your family as well and so hard to stay on 'neutral ground', so to speak.

Be thankful that their children are grown up and hopefully will help 'Mum' and themselves to find a way forward eventually, through all the mess.

Life as they know it will naturally have to change... but as we all have learnt through the gambling, trying to live a life as a family that was built on lies... is not living.

Sad for all concerned and thinking of you Graham.

Jackie x