Reddy to Quit for Good!

Hey Reddy,

sounds like you're on the right track mate, best of luck and hope to keep reading your gamble free posts! : )

chubb

63 Days!

Not thinking about giving away money! Probably too busy thinking about bloody women troubles! Heads a mess with that.

The only waste of money lately is the pack of cigs I bought to calm myself down a bit. Whatever happens its pay day tomorrow and won't be sending any of that to Malta and Gibraltar!

R

70 Days!

Waited 10 mins to get to 00:00 haha!

Not really thinking about gambling a great deal but still have a constant niggle of annoyance in the back of my brain! All the overtime I'm doing is for money I had once upon a time!

Oh well, at least for me if I break it down over a year it's currently just £3.50 a day wasted! That's why it's important for me to put this to bed because if it's P*****g me off now any more added onto it will drive me mad!

My cigs got crushed on a night out so no more of them now. Don't need them as much with things sorted out a bit with my GF, giving it another go and hopefully she will prove to me that she f****d up and will learn from it.

I'm such a s**t drunk as well, this was clearer than ever when I went on my 2 day bank holiday bender so may take it easy on the big sessions. I think I say that at least once every few months tho.

Anyways that's 70 days of my target, lets go for another 295!

R

Hi, Reddy,

Well done on your 70 days and counting but a caveat: gambling is not about the money and recovery from a gambling addiction isn't about repaying the debt. It needs a deeper look at you, why you really gambled (your gambling isn't your gf or anyone else's fault), what gambling gave you and how else to meet the same need whilst living a clean life.

BW

CW

Well done Reddy. Great to hear your success so far. You have a good way of stepping back and looking at things differently. Your posts have helped me. Thanks.

JJT

73 days!

Thanks CW that is a good caveat! I do wish I knew why I gambled I really do! Maybe it was boredom, maybe it was unfulfilment....e.g work the 9-5 and come back to time to kill and feeling like no one gave a s**t and having no one I actually wanted to spend time with around. (People really do give a s**t but I'm so bad for being open with my closest and actually wanting their company...my fault I'm lonely sometimes I know)

The casinos are smart like that, having stepped back from it it's all part of the game....those foreign women in little dresses really are humorous to start with and your like this is so for old pervs! But in the end when they are talking to you about movies and tv and holidays your playing along like the best of them and being just as much of a bloody mug! Maybe that was part of it too!

Anyways when things aren't going my way I'm going to look to try to improve them myself by doing something about it and think about what it says and meet my needs living the clean life.

JJT thanks for the encouragement and thanks for the comment! Really surprised anyone wants to read my spout but glad I can be of help! It is part of why I come on here...it's a little thank you to those that I have read who contributed before me and especially to those that posted first in my hours of need in January.

Let's watch the days add up!

R

75 Days!

Not much too say but still going strong.

I like the feeling of being totally in control of something, sounds stupid I know because of course I'm in control of everything I may do. But the gamble free challenge is quite empowering. I wouldn't say I'm missing it I just now feel like a fool. I don't envy those that it's played a bigger part on tho, changing your habits then must be near impossible! So worthwhile none the less.

Good luck.

R

77 Days!

Saw the lotto today and was tempted. But nope it's gonna be at least a year!

Here's a good one and a good reason not to be interested in gambling.

Imagine you have a great relationship going on with a amazing attractive women! She's awesome and she's everything you ever wanted! Then bang you have a moment of madness! Lose a fair bit of money.....not s**t loads not crippling debt sort of money but enough to miss and enough to P I ss you off!

Basically after that you decide you don't wanna gamble as you have done way more than enough for the year....job done. That said you are still annoyed at yourself and it takes some getting over. You have a few months a bit miserable and not yourself. Dwelling on it all a bit more than you maybe should.

During this time your lovely woman you think is standing by you.....she is but "her emotions are put on hold".

Eventually 23 months down the line after the event you see progress being made, finances return and your head getting back together. You start to be you again and care for your woman and be who she remembered you were. It's going ok and your happy again.

She goes on a routine night with some friends and ends up in bed with some guy! Just great right just great!

That little tale is me! And that little tale is why even the smallest amount gambled and the smallest amount comparatively lost is not worth it.....

She said in as many words today that my little moment of madness was the route cause of her getting into bed...."I was in my own head to much"

Basically don't gamble. She now wants me back and says she screwed up major but I have no clue what to do.

Rant over....but the moral is no good comes from gambling

Hi, Reddy,

Sorry to hear it but where is the honesty in all of this? What exactly is the link between you gambling and her going to bed with another man?

Sounds a bit like the link between my "extravagance" and my husband's "investment". Superficially reasonable but ignores a few key factors. In our case, the gambling losses were costing too much, not my household spending. In your case, two timing is not necessarily the first port of call to address problem gambling but gambling by definition has it's own negative traits. Reread your first post here.

Actually it's all manipulation, projected blame and rationalising, not obviously absurd, all too easy to be taken in. But really?

Hope things improve, stay safe.

CW

Day 87.

Thanks for the response CW. Guess I was just angry, still am a bit but I can see she is working hard to try and fix things. She is too amazing to let her go like that.

Anyways apologies again for the last post because it really was quite a tenious link. I guess simply put I was trying to communicate that my loss had took my focus away from all the other good things in my life. That made me miserable and not pay much attention to what good and bad things may be going on to everyone else.

So at the 87th day now and have 2 x 1 week holidays booked abroad in June and July! Going to be good! Skint now till pay day haha! At least they are paid for. Just bought a new golf club too off a pal now which is decent.

Basically things are good when I think about it. The loss still grates but I will have £300 back from it next week and in a seperate bank account that I am not touching till im at least even.

Cheers

R

102 Days Wooh!

Done over 100! Time flown by to be honest.

Plan to do a fair amount of overtime this month before my holiday and make my total £450.

Making progress and know everything is better without bothering with risking any gambling.

R

Hey R,

Absolutely great achievement and keep it up! Life lights up in different colours when we move further away from self destruction huh ☺

Life is your oyster - make the most out of it!

One day at a time...keep on winning for real & enjoy your upcoming holiday, you definitely deserve it 😉

Sandra

Thanks Sandra!

Got a letter through the door the other day with a credit limit increase! That would allow self destruction to be worse....but its not gonna happen! Life lesson learnt (I really hope so!)

At 108 days anyways, still need to keep busy or I think about my loss and messing around with money again. Overtime is the best way to get it back and thats what I plan to do however!

Only 2 Weeks till 1st holiday 🙂

Cheers and Good luck everyone!

R

118 Days!

All alright! Just P****d off at how stupid I was! Not even halfway and it's been 4 months of overtime!

On holiday in 3 days tho 😉