"TALES FROM THE OTHER SIDE"

Sounds like you both have peace in your lives and that can only be a good thing. I read every word of your story of life with a gambler and it was brutal, honest and eye-opening. The pain and anger came over but so did your love and passion for change. I am so delighted for you both - it's been a long hard journey but it is in the right direction. Much praise to Jim for allowing this level of detail to be posted and also to you for having the courage to share your situation so as to inform and help others... Bests JG

sorry double entry! 😉 lol

Thank you Jack for taking the time to read my waffles.

When I write 'stuff' here, I do try to write my experiences, thoughts & opinions regarding gambling or my insight of what it was like for me as a partner of a compulsive gambler with the main intention of helping others.

If my waffles help people to understand and realise that they are not alone in their situations, then that is great. If not, then it is a help to me, as it fills my time while I am unable to work...keeps me out of trouble! 😉

This is such a secret addiction. Many, many people suffer in so many ways because of it. Many of those do not realise that this nightmare is also happening to others and thats why I post.

I also want people to know that if you want it enough it is possible to turn your lives around.

Just read back my last post and it sounds terrible. 🙁

I do hope that everyone realises that there were good times, of course there were, over the last 20+ yrs of our relationship. Otherwise we would of parted many moons ago!

Here at Gamcare though, I only pull out and put on here the gambling related issues, that I can remember...or indeed chose to remember. There obviously are, lots more to Jim, me and our family but that is for us only, not for this forum. I only give what Im happy to share.

Thanks for listening

Jackie x

Jackie

What I love about your diary is that it is so reflective. Thank you for continuing with it. Your account of last night and your thoughts and feelings towards what Jim had said was very moving. Once again you have taken my breath away. This may sound a bit dramatic but i mean it!

((((jac)))) thanks for helping me more than you have known it.

Alice x

hey jac

thanks for your input on the fourm the past couple of days. you as a supporter have great input for me

and hope

Jeff

I'm so glad that you started this diary....that you have your own place here...

yeah...Ken @ safe harbor told me you came in...how nice of you to think of me.

honestly, i haven't been spending much time there either.

i am blogging regularly..and that has been therapeutic on so many levels....anyway...it's where I need to be 'today'.....

i am trying to slow down a bit...and just 'be peg' as you say....hopefully things will get a bit better soon...but...I'm doing ok, really.

life is very very good....keeping it real 🙂

Love you xoxoxoxo

Peg

hi jac. glad you are still staying strong hun, this place is great, i know i wouldnt be doing it now if i hadnt found here xxx you keep strong hun and your'e in my thoughts xxx

HI Jac

Just wanted to pop in and say thanks.

yoour words over the moths, many have satyed with me and today yest again they have helped me..

One thing that has stuck with me and I know I have said this before but yo have shown that there re different stages of recoveries and to do it as a team you have to be aware and accept that.

cheers Jac you are a diamond xxxx

Love

Lynn

(Its a lynn moment) hope you get that xxx

Hi Jac, thanks for my welcome back. Ive missed you and this place but loved every minute i was away.

So sorry to read you not been so good. Look forward to catching up soon. xx

Hi Jac

Just checking you are ok.....

You were in my thoughts today xx

Love

Lucy

xxx

Hi Jac,

it has given me a glimmer of hope to read your story although right now i don't know if i can do it - support R through his recovery. this is my darkest hour, my own rock bottom, it helps to hear you talk about your own recovery. i'm sitting here with my beautiful 4 month old daughter sleeping in her cot beside me, my 5 year old boy asleep in the room next door. he'll wake up really soon and i don't know what to do, how to hide the tears this time. rob is up at his mum's where he's been for the last 3 weeks so i can have the space i need to carry on. my sister is ill with breast cancer and lives far away, doesn't want to talk about it which i'm really struggling with and rob has been gambling again. how can i get the love and support i need in life when the one i love turns to gambling every time my life gets hard. every time i'm unable to give him the extra emotional support he craves he turns to gambling. how can i go on with this? he's got his first counselling session today. he's had some before but it didn't go nearly deep enough. i'm off to the doc's in an hour to see if they can get some counselling for me to help me cope. trying to get to relate too but they are very busy! ha, ha. we love each other sooo much but i just don't know how to go on. i'm totally broken, trying to get my head around living with this for the rest of my life. my dad was an acoholic and i feel i've sleep walked into this situation. i don't want to live like this. sorry, i'm going on...your story has touched me and i'm going to carry it with me today, thankyou.

Hello water and welcome to the site,

I feel for you, I really do. I hope your Dr was of some help yesterday.

Thank you for taking the time to read through my diary, especially if it has given you some hope, albeit a glimmer.

You are having to cope with so much at the moment with your sister, husband and children. The most important person in all of this right now is YOU. All of what you are experiencing right now is so draining, both emotionally... and with two little ones, physically as well!

To help you cope and gather your strength and maybe some advice on how to move forward with you situation, I would urge you to contact the staff here at Gamcare.

There are the helplines or you may prefer to use the netline both of which offer a one to one private discusion or the 'chat' sessions, which are open to all.

I would also recomend taking a look and joining in if you want, on the 'supporting a problem gambler' section. You will find many 'Partners' etc. who understand some of how you feel and what you are going through. You can do all this alone... but its so much easier with support.

Jackie

jac,

your support for the supporters (I know, funny) is very invaluable to the supporters and for us CG's my wife and I are struggling through this - she does not go to this site, but maybe will someday - Gambling is a different addiction than most, as you know. We CG's go to gambling for a reason. People go to drugs etc just to provide an escape - gambling gives us the escape but gives us so much more. It allows us to receive everything we do not get from our partners (or we do not realize it, which is the case in my life). But you are a true supporter and that can be different than the CG sees. best wishes to you and gull!

Cashed

Hi Jac, hope you are keeping well. I wanted to thank you for your support for me the past few weeks. Your e mails kept me going through a few black days and your friendship is invaluable.

Love and best wishes

Keith xx

jac

i am sorry.

i let myself get worked up and let my feelings from work control how i spoke to people in the chat as well as on the forums.

i don't think you are a b****. in fact far from it. you have given me a lot of support and it was me being the b**** to chuck that back in your face the way i did today.

once again i'm sorry.

alice x