Wanting to want to stop

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I am at the beginning of what I hope will be my recovery from the nightmare of gambling. I would never have believed I could get sucked in to this toxic lifestyle. I feel sick and ashamed and pretty desperate. Today has been a bad day. Every day has been a bad day for a long time. I realise I have to want to want to stop and my problem is, do I really want to enough?? Things are only going to get worse if I don't take that decision and they're pretty bad already. I accept and recognise I have a very serious gambling problem and I am going to try to tackle it. My target for this evening is to get through the night without pestering my husband for money to gamble. It feels like the biggest mountain to climb as I'm absolutely desperate for my fix but I guess all journeys start with a small step.

 
Posted : 30th August 2014 9:11 pm
duncan.mac
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Ali

welcome to the forum a place full of like minded people trying to achieve the same goal to arrest the destruction that gambling wages upon our lives.

Days like yours today get more frequent and the damage progressively worse as addiction takes hold.

It will take all you have to gift and more.

Well done for taking th efirst huge step towards recovery

Admitting that gambling is beyond your control

My advice take all the help out there and be 100% honest,with yourself first then with everyone else.

The first day upon my journey I was given a piece of amazing advice it still works today

There is a Triangle

Time-Money-Location

Take one away and the punt becomes impossible,gifting your brain the chance to think rationally to over come the temptation that addiction places in front of us.

Whilst gambling we all live by the same mantra

I CANNOT WIN BECAUSE I CANNOT STOP

today you can turn that full circle

you can become a winner

For that be proud

Enjoy it

Duncs stepping forward never back

 
Posted : 30th August 2014 9:55 pm
SB28
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Hi Alli,

Welcome to this supportive site and well done for making first steps towards better and stress free future. You are so right in sayin that every journey begins with a small step. Step by step, keep moving forward, there is better life out there and you like everyone else deserves only happiness and harmony surrounding you.

Take it day at a time, get all the blocks possible to keep you safe on tough days.K9 protection if you gamble online is gonna help a lot. It is free of charge also. Exclude yourself from all the sites, keep coming on here and putting your thoughts down. You are never alone, so just get yourself comfy and accept all the support offered.

I wish you well on your journey. ...make it your own and enjoy the benefits of the life free from self destruction.

You can do it.

Take care

Sandra x

 
Posted : 30th August 2014 10:01 pm
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Thanks Duncs and Sandra for your kind words. I feel particularly low tonight, can't stop crying and having really dark thoughts. I just want this nightmare to stop. It's all comsuming. I will try and hang on to your words.

Alli

 
Posted : 31st August 2014 12:29 am
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Ali Hi ,

I can't offer words of wisdom as have relapsed, but can say I know the dark hole you are in at the moment and try to remember this place if you resolve fails and you want to bet. It is the best deterant, the process of acceptance and facing what we have become can feel destroying but it will get better. Try to be kind to yourself and try to stay focused.

Best wishes for the most rewarding battle to win

Cheryl x

 
Posted : 31st August 2014 12:35 pm
triangle
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hang in there Ali

perhaps it may help to give gamcare a ring or email them?

everyone needs some help sometime

tri

 
Posted : 31st August 2014 12:41 pm
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Thanks for all the support and kind words. Another tough day, I scraped together 11 and chucked it down a FOBT, two old guys beside me cursing at the machines. Felt utterly lousy afterwards. Every hour feels like a decade at the moment. Made myself eat some lunch and then sat down to watch a DVD. Managed to focus for a while, then fell asleep for 3 hours and woke up with desperate urge to gamble. I have no money at all. Hubby has taken to hiding all the gadgets/phones overnight so I can't gamble, even if I had any money. I feel totally out of control yet completely contolled by others at the same time. I can understand why some gamblers feel suicidal - I felt so low this morning there didn't seem any point carrying on. Just want this misery to stop. Best of luck to everyone out there fighting this battle.

 
Posted : 31st August 2014 9:24 pm
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Thank you for your kind words Cheryl. It really makes a difference knowing I'm not alone in this fight. All good wishes to you in your recovery.

 
Posted : 31st August 2014 9:39 pm
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Ali you are welcome, will be walking beside you as long as you need

Cheryl xxx

 
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