Heightened Emotions after stopping

Hi @alex1234 ,

very intresting point. I never really thought of it but looking back I do see myself emotionally drowned while in a gambling spiral, you are sort of numb because of all the emotional investments towards gambling. Leaving your partner sadly on a lower pedestal which might seem like they don't care... but you are just so done with urself while gambling that you don't have the energy to invest into other people (not trying to excuse the behavior).

On the other hand during our recovery all the emotions that were suppressed by gambling, either childhood trauma, injuries, recent grief, seeing no way out.. While withdrawing we are extremely vulnerable and might get emotionally attached to our partner maybe beyond reason which can lead to a certain almost paranoia that our partner is almost cheating or something. Same goes for other people but since our partner is the human we are the most emotionally attached to it's even worse. I am sure he doesn't mean anything bad with his remarks that you don't love him or need him, he quite likely might actually feel that way, please remind him that it's not true, if it's not..

After some time he will feel comfortable enough and he might open up to you with his trauma.

Also I don't want to be that guy but I don't want your heart to be broken, so be careful. Some people in these situations can be extremely manipulative, depends on how deep into their addiction they are, same goes for me.(it is voluntary but extreemely hard to control)

I really hope your husband will stay strong in his recovery and also that you both can find peace, much love.