Like most, before my partner I had no experience of living with someone with addiction. I myself, however, do struggle with mental health issues, so I do empathise with my partner and the mental struggle his has battling his demons.
However we are really at breaking point at this moment in time.
He accepts he has a problem and he wants to recover but he is struggling. He says counselling isn't working for him but he is open to taking other measures.
We've really come to blows about his gambling, and I can't help but have a voice in the back of my mind saying leave. Both he and I are at an all time low as a couple and as individuals, and I'm now questioning if and how we can move forward?
I really don't want to leave him, I want to help him recover. He's a good person with a good heart and tries to be as open as possible about his addiction (although of course I wouldn't be suprised if there is more that he is not telling me). He doesn't really have any family and I can't help but feel emotional at the thought of him doing this alone. I know how it is to feel that you are alone and I wouldn't ever want anyone else to feel that way.
But unfortunately I'm struggling to see light at the end of the tunnel for us at the moment. I feel mentally and emotionally exhausted.
Can you really come out on the other side?
Hi feeling lost, yes you can, but you have to get help for both of you. That can come in many forms. If he doesn't see benefits from counselling will he go to GA? You can go to gamanon. He needs to put his blocks in place, hand over finances, sign up to GamStop. You must safeguard your finances and get some support. Call gamcare and talk to someone. Don't pay his debts, look after you.
I know exactly how you feel Feeling lost, I am in almost I'm the exact same boat, although my partner is yet to admit he has a problem. It's so hard thinking about leaving, as like you I don't want him to have to face it alone, I love the absolute bones of him, but I'm scared we'll get to a point where it's not enough. I really hope things get better for you both x
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