I've been with my husband for 12 years, we have two children, 10 & 7. I found out in May that he had been gambling online and had gambled almost 2000 of our money. I forgave him as he said he could stop and was sorry. I found out this last week that he hadn't stopped, he in fact had started again only 3 weeks after I had threatened to leave and he had promised he could stop by himself. He has been lying and moving money from our joint account to his account so I couldn't see what he was doing. He has lied and been so underhand in hiding his deception. We have some weeks been barely able to buy a food shop we have been so skint and he has blamed me for not earning enough. I feel like he has no thought or care for either me or our children as he has been so calculated in how he's done it. I feel like I barely know him anymore.
I really don't know what to do. I love him and I can't bare the thought of breaking up our family, but is he going to do this again? How do I trust anything he says? Am I supporting or enabling him? He says he'll change and this will never happen again. But if he can't help what he's doing how can he stop? The money is one thing but I can't stomach the lying or the moods.
I honestly don't know what to say to you as I am in pretty much the same position I'm afraid. One part of me wants to leave as I cannot take it anymore the other part, well I don't really know to be honest, but you are not alone with everything you are feeling xxx
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