Thanks admin. And thanks ODAAT....I will see what women's aid suggest and will use them to liaise with my housing department to see if I can get him out. I'm so down all the time, and anxious...constantly living on edge and I just can't do it for much longer. At least this way, if I'm armed with all the help and info I can find, when it comes to it he will have a shock and there won't be a way out for him. He has inflicted this on me and the children for far too long now and I'm tired of our lives revolving around his gambling. If he won't change I will have to change things.....I just hope I'm strong enough when it comes to it! Xx
How are you getting on?
CW
Cynical wife wrote:
How are you getting on?
CW
Had a terrible weekend. He telephoned me when out shopping for money and I had a breakdown coz I couldn't face what was waiting for me when I got back. As it was, he went and borrowed money from a family member. As annoyed as I am, I can't stop them. He obviously hasn't told them what it's for, I doubt they know what's going on and it's up to them if they choose to loan him money or not. It has kept him quiet for the past 24hrs. He managed to have a few wins but has lost it all. He describes himself as being in a gambling black hole. He can't feel any anger at the moment, he is in shock. He has lost £700....close to a weeks family holiday. He says at least he was normal for a day! What a f*****g insult! He said it will hit him like a sledgehammer in the morning....great....back to taking it out on me, damanding money....as, of course, it's Cheltenham week, being in a mood like a petulant teenager who can't get their own way and threats and insults coming my way too.....and he wonders why I don't want to stay married to him!
Hi, S&L,
Sorry it's so rubbish for you. Have the National Domestic Violence helpline replied yet? Or can you phone them? Phone GC? Can you get to a GamAnon meeting? Or contact the CAB? Is there someone you can tell, I know he's isolated you but anyone? Another mother at school? A family member?
You need that help and support for you to help you make things change for the better.
re the family member who gave him money, you could stop them next time by telling them what the loan was for. As long as he has everyone intimidated into keeping quiet, his cash sources are intact.
Do keep pressing to get help for you.
CW
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