My husband has a gambling problem and I don’t know how to get him to see it. He’s a hard worker and often puts in over 50 hours a week. We had talked about him budgeting a certain amount of money each month for the sports betting he does on his phone, but he isn’t sticking to it. He says he “has to withdraw from our account because that’s how you make money.” He doesn’t think he has a problem because EV betting is “smart” and supposedly not the same. But I think it’s a problem. We have debt to pay off, and that should be the priority. Withdrawing money for gambling shouldn’t be something he can just do every day. If there’s no budget, then there’s a problem, but he doesn’t see it. He ignores me and can’t talk to me about it. I’m just so frustrated, and I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this either.
Hi becs96
the idea of budgeting to a compulsive gambler is impossible to ***. There is no budget, there’s just an endless supply.
a gambler who can’t stop is waiting for the big win (that’s what they think) but that win never comes.
the only way to control gambling is to stop. Stop access to money.
the debt will just get bigger. He’s working 50 hours for what? What does he have to show for it? Can you see how much he’s gambled over time?
I would definitely contact gamcare and talk with someone. You need to look after yourself, try and secure your finances separately from his.
there are also meetings if you want support from others.
credit reports let you see what’s going on regarding debts etc
stepchange can help with payment or advice on debt.
talk here and hopefully others will reply
Hello I feel alone the only
The person above is correct budgeting won't work.. one has to disengage from gambling completely furthermore the individual has to" want" to disengage completely..I have lost a small fortune on "roulette machines" in the last 20 years.
But have managed to disengage from them but periodically I think I shall have a "spin " and it usually ends in the bank card coming out and getting credit in the betting shop (which incidentally shoont be facilitated) ..I now leave the card in the house and only carry small amounts of cash.some banks will put a payment block on all leading high street bookmakers..my personal point with this post is I am sorry to say is not about advising u on how to budget but to say U can't be a part time gambler if you are a compulsive gambler (which ure husband appears to be) U are either out completely as U cannot be half in or half out..if you still want to budget I would advise U be his administrator.
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