Hi
Just looking for some advice
I have been with my husband for 11 years and he has always gambled
He has had private counselling GA meetings and the issue still continues, I have control of the money but I do have to give the card to him things that cannot be planned, this last time happened on Saturday he took the bank card incase he broke down and he ended up loosing 250 at the service station
His gambling is quite deep routed to issues in his past and the gambling is not as bad as it used to be but still continues I am now at the end of my wits and I do not know what to do for the best for me and my daughter.
It's like living with 2 people the gambler and the loving husband and dad
Please help
Hi worried and I perfectly understand the name.... I've spent 15 years worried.
Like you my husband always gambled, had a few months off here and there bit like the rest of us would take a holiday but soon back at it. He's gambled away more than he's ever earn to think.
In truth there is nothing you can do to stop him. Even him admitting his problem is no real use until he actually wants to do something about it. My husband would talk about his gambling problem. Admit it to me and a councillor then carry on doing it. He might have wanted help but was never prepared to commit to anything for more than a few months. I feel it was just a silencing tactic.
The only thing I can suggest you could physically do is change the bank card for a cash only card. Then he can only draw out what's been put in there. You'd need to go to the bank together for that one.
Other than that I don't know what to suggest. Sorry to say but until he wants to do something about it, it's a life your stuck with. It really is a case of who's had enough first. Him with his gambling or you for living with it.
We all have our breaking point.
I'm very sorry if my post to you seems a bit blunt but after years of being lied to I only deal with the truth. I guess anyone on the friends and family side appreciate the need for honesty
Shelly x
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