Hi,
I'm 22 and have a gambling problem.
Thankfully I have realised before losing any really devastating amount of money, but that doesn't help the feelings of guilt, shame and frustration every time I do give in and go to the bookies again, win or lose.
I'm just getting to the end of the book 'Willpower's not enough' which I am finding good, and I've joined here to become part of a community as that is one of the things the book advises.
I've accepted that I've got a problem, but really don't think I can tell my parents or girlfriend. Its not got to the stage where it is affecting them, so is it ok to try and beat this on my own (with the support of communities like this) or do I really need to tell somebody?
Thanks
P.s. last night is the last time I went to the bookies, I have tried to stop before but really need to make it stick this time
Hi Anon7 - Well done on admitting your problem and resolving to do something about it before it really ruins your life. You have the rest of your life ahead of you, and to be free of this destructive addiction will have a major impact on your future happiness.
As for telling your parents and girlfriend, I would say wait until you feel really confident about your progress. As you say, your gambling has not impacted on them and sometimes ignorance is bliss. However if you really feel stressed about doing this on your own, and this starts to affect your relationships then 'coming clean' often lifts a weight from your shoulders and you can benefit from their support.
You are right in saying that being part of a community helps, and here you will find loads of support and encouragement.
Why not come on over to the 2014 Challenge on the 'Overcoming problem gambling' page.
It's a team effort and very supportive.
You have to commit to giving up gambling and check in once a week. Mr Brightside runs the show and gives a weekly update on all our progress - it's good fun too.
Best wishes to you, and congratulations again on facing up to your problem.
Joanna
Hi Joanna, thanks for the reply. I'll take on board what you said regarding telling family members, thank you. And yes I will join the challenge, it sounds like a really good idea.
Day 2 going well đŸ™‚
Great - hope you are feeling better with every day.
Joanna
Hi Anon7,
Welcome to the Forum. I hope that you had a good weekend. Keep checking in here or start a recovery diary. Stay connected to the community.
A good week to you!
Gabriele
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