Hi everyone i havent been on here for a long time but i felt it was time to come back and give some tips and my story on how to win by giving up! Where do i start ? nothing hard is ever going to be easy so first things first "willpower will be the biggest part to play in this" no one can help you more then you can help yourself. but support by people you love and trust is fantastic as well. remember this is a illness and a battle that only you can fight!
my story: most of my gambling was done online! football mainly but done the casino as well mostly when i had a drink! in the end it took over my life i didnt find it enjoyable in the end just chased and chased for the sake of it, i never won because it was only more stake money that went back till there was no more and if like me, i found money didnt mean anything i just needed my next fix but if it came to getting shopping,paying bill and treating my wife i would watch every little penny i didnt want to spend on them when i could be gambling with it (how selfish when i look back now) money had no value it was worthless to me!
It all ended 30th of may 2013 / my wife left with my two kids! 1 of them was just born 2 months old and my world fell apart after 5 years together she had enough the lies the sneaking about the random mood swings on cloud nine one minute and on the floor the next! no money and no food in the cupboards she done whats best for the children!
I was 22 grand in debt she knew nothing about! 3 weeks later i took a overdose at 28 years old! my dad found me just by chance coming round for a cup of tea, i woke in hospital lucky to be alive and thought about my two little girls i would of left behind did they deserve to be left without a dad at 2years old and 2 months old? course they didnt and from that day i have never looked back!
the most important part you need to want to stop and this is what i done! take the temptation away. i got software put on the computers! i needed a way to block my phone i rang 02 and got a parent control put on for 18+ so i cant load any gambling sites on i spoke to stepchange a debt charity and we started sorting my debts out! get a hobbie something you really enjoyed before gambling took over life. i did and i love it more then ever before now dont get me wrong there gonna be real tough times and lonely times where the betting use to be and you will fight it everyday i treat every day like the first day i stopped! it wont ever go away you just need to channel it and control. i think about my girls faces when i have a bad thought about doing it again and how i would be letting them down. I get my wages paid in my bank then i withdraw the whole lot after dd have come out and look after my money that way just controlling my temptations
Im the key to my own happiness and i couldn't be happier I will not let you win.
Macca.
Hi Macca ,
Well done to you and thanks for sharing your story. We need to read the successful stories.
Your post "fits" so well here in the depths of despair in the New Members postings.
It gives such HOPE.
It shows the light at the end of the tunnel.
You have realised there is not a payday loan on earth that will extend our time here by one single day.
It's people who matter not cars & holidays.
You have brightened up a dark October morning for me.
Hugs to your family from me.
You are a great dad!
Take care,
Suzy
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