Hi my name's Andrew
I have taken the first step .
With everyone opening up I will be the same and explain my addition In detail.
There is not a moment in the day I have not got some sort of bet on weather that be dog race. Horse race. Football bet in any land in the world . Virtual race is need be. I go too bed awaiting the next day's thrill which will last another 10-12 hours of my day.
I have come on too this site asking for help and guidance on knocking this all on the head. I have gambled for 20 years plus but it's getting worse weekly. The thrill no longer wants the pound wins it's demands £5 £10 per bet placed. There is endless of bets per day and I am hoping any of you can help me with advice.
My addition has a real hold on me I would say it's lately but it's worse then that now. I wake up in the night thinking of my next bets too place. My mind never rests . I don't have many friends as I have pushed them all away as my gambling has been my main friend for years. The wife puts up with me knows my struggles but also knows I wouldn't change as didn't know how too change until now I am ready too fight . I have seen on loads of posts the fight ain't easy it's daily fights and I would imagine the same now I am thinking about it. All ready I am thinking no betting tomorrow then Andrew . So so sad the way it has us playing second fiddle too our own thoughts I seen a few comments about daily wins of not betting I think my addition will have too be hourly wins where I ain't places a bet .
I intend too get over this addition I know it's no smooth ride but I am hopeful . However it's day 1 so who knows.
I have blocked all apps and banned my local book maker as use that the most like all the time.
I will take each day as it comes but any advice will be appreciated
Thank you for reading
Hi Andrew!
Welcome to GamCare. I'm very pleased to see you're ready to put your life back on track.
You're right, one day at a time making that choice not to gamble takes you to better future. I started with minute at a time and still get those urges now and then. Those times you just need to stop and think why you want to end the misery in the first place. It's good time to reflect on this.
Nobody can make you to stop and you need to WANT it yourself. That's why I am very happy to see that you're giving this a go.
Also it's good that your wife knows about the problem. Allow her space and time to understand the addiction. Maybe she will not get it (after all we don't get it ourselves) but if you stay open and honest, gradually she will start seeing that you're true to your word. Actions not words. Even small steps can make a massive difference. You have to be honest with yourself first to bring the promises in fruition. There is also help out there for her. Gam anon or even advise from advisers on here. Remember that this problem affects not only you but everyone around you also.
I'm glad you're using the site to help you. Keep attending chats and post on here as there is always some advice to be offered.
Good that you put blocks I place too. The more you can armour yourself with - the better. Dig deep, acknowledge the triggers and urges and deal with them accordingly.
Make plans and fill your day with positive stuff. Gambling will only keep taking, it will not stop until last penny is spent and you are left destroyed financially, emotionally and mentally. Do not let it happen, you can lead your life in healthy manner, you and your loved ones are worth it.
We cannot win because we cannot stop. Read this sentence again, does it make sense? I think it speaks out truth.
Wish you well,
Stay close by.
S
Thanks SB28
Great points there mate. Especially the last one you can't win because you can't stop......
I fully understand that
It's been a bit difficult today in truth all day I have wanted too go and put my football on for the night and if it was just that I would probably of gone but I know it won't stop there go out football on. Try the machine . Have a horse race and dog and be back too square one all effort gone down the drain and even if football did come in ( not like it would ) it wouldn't cover the loss I had just spent in the bookmaker session.
I really mean it I am in it with the people in the group I ain't going too go no matter how hard it plays on my mind .
Which it's playing right now 10mins before kickoff I can make it bookie and get the inplay market .
It's like there is 2 people one saying no and the other saying sod the no guy we want some fun. However we both know it's never fun . The lies and excuses I would have too use when I come out the bookie ain't worth the Hassel.
I look forward too see in you on th meeting later or in the week mate. You have really encourage me tonight too let the no mean no.
Thank you ?
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