hi my name is andy im 29 years old and have been struggling with gambling since i was 22 years old , the time started where i had a good credit rating and took numerous loans out , i ended up gambling iy all away , i ended up getting my partner at the time to take out a loan and i spent all that aswell , im currently 3 and half years into my debt plan but every time im getting paid i always have the urge to gamble it all and always feel so lonely no matter what happens , theres been so many sleepless nights along the way , now that im with my new partner and with her guidance i now looking to get the help i can and support into putting gambling firmly behind me , ive lost so many years and i wont be able to get them back, i feel like it has took alot of my younger life away from me, any feedback or experiences memebers could share would be very helpful.
thanks andy
Hello Andy and Welcome to the forum
The best thing you can do is put your faith in trusted people trying to help you...... being totally open and honest with them about a gambling addiction.
What makes you a real man is admitting it had you beaten and reaching out for all the help you can get
Abstention is the only way and the cold turkey must be backed up with strong blocks and living allowances
Starting with a born again moment you have a lot to learn as your mind slowly heals and becomes stronger
However you can never be complacent again about its power. You will find a peace of mind when you get your life back in order
The answers are within you why you were vulnerable as gambling was never the answer to who you are or what level of money you have.
Its a recovery journey you start with the "wax on, wax off" principle of basic awareness and learning
There is no shame in a proper recovery and accepting responsibility for your actions
Its a complex addiction and the truth is that something highly addictive was pushed on you so dont be too hard on yourself.
With a healthier mind you will begin to see gambling for what it really is. The key is treating this like a drug addiction just like alcohol smoking or other substances.
How you live life and see the natural pleasures in life will help you through this
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
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