God I need help so bad

You have come to the rightplace hun, the support here is amazing as we've all been in the same situation emotionally. Financially everyone is different but the psychological damage is the same.

If you are feeling too low a chat with counseller might be worth a go just to help get things into persective.

Start your recovery diary and post as many times as you need. Get through day 1 and you'll be surprised how quickly the days mount up 🙂

Welcome to the forum and welcome to your recovery.

Lisa xx

Thanks for your comment, I've just woke up it's the morning after the first thing I thought about was my loss it's making me feel sick and how it's left me pretty much short for cash this week, I automatically don't want to do anything today although the urge to gamble isn't there maybe because last night is still raw I can't tell my partner about last night that's why I came here, she does know I gamble but not the extent of it my parents also know but I've went to them before and said I need help to which I was called stupid etc but I don't blame them for that reaction it is stupid and they offered me help to which I didn't take up this was a few years ago, I will try my best to break this horrible thing that has a hold on me. So today is day one I wil post every day forever if I have to because this time I really do want to stop I realise that I need to stop every form of gambling although I love a football coupon and don't see that as a problem I wish I could only place football bets on a Saturday like my friends do for leisure but I can't seem to be like that.

Welcome and well done on your right step in starting to realize your addiction is real and something you have to tackle head on. Your first right step was honesty and you will get a lot of help here. I hope you are true to your words and post here everyday. There is so much help here and we can all relate to your feelings. I am in early recovery myself and still feel ill about losses too.

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The harsh truth is your not like your mates who bet on a football coupon for leisure, i want you to rid yourself of this horrible gambling surroundings like myself, you see an alcoholic cant give up and say but ill still have half a lager on Friday after work, its gotta to be nothing at all, if you don't want to feel like you did after your big loss, you have to stop completely, keep checking this site for help, advice and guidance and tell yourself that no more hard earned money will be gambled, that's what im telling myself everyday and so far its working, remember keep calm and don't gamble

Hi everyone, so yesterday was day 1 I was going to post last night but got side tracked, anyway, I came clean with my partner yesterday which was so relieving she was angry at first which I expected but then she was supportive and said I can't do this on my own without help anymore she thinks it past that, I felt so bad when she was saying things like you could have bought the kids so any clothes with that money, my kids have everything and aren't short but that's not the point here, I felt sick at my actions and what I've been doing, yesterday I managed a full day without a bet and it was quite easy maybe bacuse I was happy I got it out in the open, and we kept busy we took my son out for dinner and had a nice talk I told her my feelings and everything I'm lucky to have her, on the night a few friends came up and we just chilled out in my garden with all the kids running about followed by pizza, and I just thought to my self this is what life should be about, I got through the day well but there will be more challenging times ahead I know, I plan on going to a ga meeting next week but I'm shy around these situations but I need to do it, today is day 2 wish me luck and thanks for your encouraging comments you are all along with t family my rock at this hard time. Day 2 let's get through this, I love you all

So day 2 of no gambling is upon me I'm sat watching the England game with no bet on it feels strange it's the first time I've not bet on a game I've watched for a long time,every hour that is passing without a bet is making me stronger, with the World Cup round the corner it's going to be such a test but one I'm ready to challange, how is everyone else getting along hope I are all staying strong I'm praying for each and everyone of you all, god bless us

Liam

Hi Liamo,

Well done for making the massive effort you have clearly made so far.

Believe it or not there will actually come a point where you will enjoy watching a live football match without having a bet on it. It's probably hard for you to imagine that so early in your recovery, but honestly that is how it ends up if you stop gambling.

You still get that feeling of wishing that you had bet on something that had won, but personally I feel it is essential to also constantly remind yourself of all the losers you would have backed too!

There will always be more losers than winners in reality.

It is so so stressful betting on sporting events that the enjoyment factor is taken out of it once a bet is placed. We just don't seem to see that at the time, and we confuse betting with enjoyment.

It's nice when you can watch the whole World Cup for the right reasons, and not for your next bet.

Good luck - you sound like you are at least trying massively to resolve your problem.

Day 4 out the way now, thanks for the post I was beginning to think I was talking to mysel lol, I feel so great at the minute I'm in early days still and I've been at this stage before although like I've said before this feels different because of this page, I'm reading other posts and listening to other people which is making such a difference to my personal battle, my girlfriend has allowed me to get a dart board in our bedroom for me to come take my mind off gambling when I get the urge, playing darts seems to make me forget and help me relax it's been a big no no previously but she understands I need it now even though I'm not the best player it's something I enjoy that doesn't involve giving money away like gambling does, I've also got a bit of a problem it's my 30th birthday in October and me and my mates were due to go to the races for a day and night away it was all my idea, now this can't happen at all I don't even want to go as I know the danger it could potentially cause me and my recovery, I also don't want all my friends to judge me and to laugh so to speak so how would anyone suggest I get out of this situation and maybe get something else booked up,

Thanks in advance.

Liamo

Hi liamo, my birthday is in october2!! Definetly cancel going to race mate, it will make your day unnecessary miserable, your friend wont know and understand your situation n even they will encourage you to put some bet on.. U need to stop gambling fully, even if u put a bet just a pound it will spoil your motivation..i am on almost 2 weeks now without any kind of betting and everyday i feel better..i gambled 13 years , no more..dont forget..we cant win because we can not stop..my advice to u is find syh to keep u busy..i have been going to gym and it keeps me enough busy..so may be u start 2 snd show your kids hiw strong u r:) we will beat the devil mate as we dont have another option..take care

Thanks mate,

Hope you are staying strong too, the races is NOT happening under any circumstances it's just getting out of it without blowing my cover I am not ashamed of this recovery I'm more ashamed of what I was and did, it's just I would like to avoid been the topic of conversation you see I'm from a small town and everyone knows everyone's business. Maybe go paint balling instead I think 😉

Hey man good choice to avoid races it would end badly. I am happy you are thinking smartly something i need to learn. I am early days like you so will pop by time to time and see how you progress. Good start tho well done mate.

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