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Hi Jon

i am newish here too and there is a lot of help and advice available. Best to read a lot of the other posts which give you an idea of what help is available and how people deal differently with their compulsion. If you want to open up more or need specific help somebody will be there for you. All the best.

Hi I'm the mum of someone I'm 99.9% sure is a cg and it makes me feel ill that he is ruining his life and I don't know how to help. This has been an ongoing thing since he was 16 years old and since then he has lost I don't know how many jobs, too many to count several relationships and doesn't see his children, and although he says he is doing everything he can to see them surely if they were that important he would stop the gambling.
At the moment he seems to be borrowing money from everyone he can get to swallow his sob stories.
Don't get me wrong it's not that I don't love him, I do with all my heart, but I feel as if my husband and I should be enjoying our lives now not worrying about a 35 year old man with children of his own.
HELP !!!!!!!!!

Hi Missycat,

He needs to contact Gamcare for counselling and our attend local GA meetings. It's so sad that your lives are being ruined as well. You could contact Gam-Anon fo relatives of CG's for info too.

Ultimately it is your son that needs to take some responsibility for his own life. He has to show some determination to enable him to quit.

As the old saying goes "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink".

Some other people with more experience on these matters may post advice for you on here.

Just need to mention there is a friends and relatives section on here. You might want to read some of those posts.

Best Wishes.

Hi Mr Stop
Thanks for response how do I find the f & R section please. I'm very new to all this but feel at the end of my tether because the sad thing is I don't think my son believes he has a problem at all.

I guess I just need someone to tell me it's not my fault because I blame myself all the time. I was a young mum 18 and not sure I made all the right decisions, my mum passed away when I was 17 and she was an alcoholic, so I never had anyone to really guide me. I'm honestly not looking for excuses I'm just worried that I ruined his life for my mistakes. It makes me so sad.

Missycat,

Just click on Forum at the top of this screen. When you get there just scroll down (about 5th option down) it's coloured in green. Click on it. There's loads of posts on there to read.

Thank you very much