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(@scads191)
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Another attempt at giving up gambling after 40 years of doing it!

 
Posted : 27th November 2024 11:13 pm
(@ruthi15)
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Hi i have gambled all my life but now want a different life as it has been like living two lives rather than one 

 
Posted : 28th November 2024 10:12 pm
(@mast2021)
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@ruthi15  i feel the same.  This secret kills me. Also the same and guilt. I often wonder do people know

 
Posted : 29th November 2024 11:47 pm
(@ruthi15)
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Posted by: @mast2021

@ruthi15  i feel the same.  This secret kills me. Also the same and guilt. I often wonder do people know

 

 
Posted : 29th November 2024 11:55 pm
 Eddy
(@4pr195nxby)
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I am also making an effort to stop but finding it difficult because I have been gambling for many years, mostly out of boredom. You get one life. Why be miserable. Yes, that's how it makes me feel whether I win or lose. I feel miserable because I know I've opened pandora's box. One day at a time. Now that you have acknowledged that you have a problem and want to stop surely that is progress and you are on your way to recovery. 40 years you can't get back but you can keep the next many years you have left. Good luck on your journey to recovery. 

 
Posted : 30th November 2024 9:38 am
(@q86r2ugj5p)
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Hi

The addictions and obsessions just indicated that I Had certain emotional triggers.

I am a non religious person and questioned if the recovery program would work for me.

In time I went to more meetings and found a healthy meeting that had some really healthy honest therapies.

After a lot of effort and time I got to understand what my emotional triggers were.
 
My life changed from reacting in unhealthy ways to having healthy interactions with most people.
 
Emotional triggers for me my were pains I could not heal, an emotional trigger were my were fears I could not face and reduce, an emotional trigger were my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations I could reduce, an emotional trigger were my fears of emotional intimacy and feeling like a loner and disconnected, an emotional trigger for me was boredom because I could feel productive and I was not able to commit to my needs my wants and in time set goals for me to achieve.
 
My frustrations due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations were in effect me causing my self pains.
 
Only by reducing my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations would I stop hurting my self.
 
How many times did we expect something from someone that could not give me, they did not have it in them to give.
 
If a person is unable to love them self, they are not able to love me.
 
If a person is unable to respect them self, they are not able to respect  me.
 
In repeatedly saying to myself "I have to" implies reluctance and resentments.

Only once I was able to abstain from my unhealthy habits and unhealthy emotional reactions could the healing start and happen of my hurt inner child.

No one could stop me gambling in time that would be my healthier choice.

My lies were all pain and fear based.

Before my recovery I felt a very lonely inadequate insecure failure and that was on a good day.

I have been going to meetings now over 2/3 of my life.

I have been going to meetings now over 50 years.

I have been clean from gambling over 32 years.

And the simple truth is if I can do it any one can.

If you feel guilt shame or regret you have a healthy conscience and at base root are a healthy spiritual person.

If you feel guilt shame or regret if you work your recovery in a healthy way you will no longer need to go against your own conscience.

The time and effort you put in to your recovery will help you fulfill your healthy needs your healthy wants and in time your healthy goals.

I felt that there was no way I would ever find a healthy life without unhealthy addiction and unhealthy obsessions for my self and my family.

How much do you value yourself, how much do you think you can do for yourself today in becoming a much healthier person.

I went to meetings and still do today in finding a life without me being an unhealthy person today.

Just for today I will not gamble.

Healing love and Peace to everyone.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

 
Posted : 30th November 2024 6:02 pm

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