I need help. I have admitted today my problem

Hi, theres loads of advice and support on here. You've started the ball rolling by admitting your problem. You can contact Gamcare for advice and they also offer free counselling. Some on here attend Gamblers Anonymous meetings too. You can self-exclude yourself from sites and betting shops. You can be open about your finances so you aren't hiding anything from your partner. There's a lot your can do, and although rebuilding trust is often the hardest thing of all, you can do these things not just to help tackle your problem but to prove you are willing to do whatever it takes.

It's a long, hard road but there is no alternative other than being forever skint, regretful and lonely. It's your choice!

Thanks for the reply. I rang today and have arranged counciling. I have to regain trust I know I have been open and laid everything out all finaces etc. i need to fix this because I don't wan to lose my family.

Hi Jamie... sorry to hear about your situation but glad you have admitted you have a problem. Try going to gamblers anonymous meetings and see if your fiancГ© is willing to go to gam anon meetings which are for partners of compulsive gamblers.

You cannot correct the past so don't get any ideas of ever trying to recover that money... you'll just get in deeper troubles. Look to the future and show to your family all the barriers and efforts you are making.

Your fiancГ© is mad right now and you can understand that but she also needs to understand that you're not a bad person and you have a problem that you need help in dealing with. It shouldn't be used as a means to justify our acts, I am not eloquent enough to articulate it in words, but a non gambler will struggle to understand how a gambler thinks. If she can come round to that and you can prove that you are doing everything in your means to prevent a further episode emancipating then you are definitely worthy of a second chance.

If you took money that was not yours then ultimately you need to pay that back and you know that will probably be a real barrier to regaining trust.

I feel for you but ultimately you shouldn't have stolen money. You know that and if you weren't a compulsive gambler I very much doubt you would ever have done such a thing.

Good luck and I hope my comments came across in a constructive way.

Thanks for the reply Change. Do partners go together to GA meeting I would like her to to help her understand my problem. I hope I al worth a second chance U don't really know it's to late until it's to late! Today is the first day to change my ways and it is going to be hard but I need to do it for myself and especially my family hom I love very mub. There is a ga session tomorrow nearby my house I think I willgo but I am scared ! I need to change all of you thoughts and advice are wey much appreciated

Hi Jamie... the GA meetings are just for compulsive gamblers but the one I go to has a separate meeting at the same time for partners of gamblers. I'm not sure how many do the same thing.

GA meetings are excellent so don't be scared. You have to do it for your family so go and it's another thing you can show you're doing.

Hi

Today I have not gambled I hav done what I needed to do today without lying and gambling. I went to a GA meeting which was very somber. It was my first one. I need to do this for myself. But I need to do this for my family I have a beautiful fiancГ© and a lovely little boy and I have been given a chance to fix this situation. I still can't belive what I have done, but I hope from now on I can make things better bit by bit. I want my family back so badly I wish I can have them now:-(.

Thanks james

Hi my name's Chris just wanted some advice people to talk to I'm 25 recently I've.become very addicted to roulette in casino and live online just caused me nothing but stress and feeling down past few weeks tips and anyone experience would be much appreciated thank you

Hi Chris

I am new to this from my last two days of my life I would say tell someone who loves you your problem and start from there . I have just told everyone my problem and the relief was almost instant. It is difficult I could lose everyone I love because of my actions. Get help ASAP however hard it may be.

J

Hi Jamiec90, welcome to recovery 🙂

I don't think your wish of your loved ones understanding this will ever come true because it is something that even those of us caught up in it 'by choice' don't understand but just so you know, Gamcare offer a friends & family service & Gamanon meetings cater for our loved ones!

Have you handed over your finances? You need to get the Time-Money-Location gambling triangle broken so that when this resolve weakens & the urges start telling you you can fix everything with one big win you can tell them where to go! This is not about the money for the people that matter, it is about earning their trust back & in order to do so, you will need very strong barriers to support the mental help you have already sorted out!

Great work on your first 2 days 🙂 Time to take your life back now - ODAAT

Welcome Jamie

Use this website there is lots of great people on it with great stories and offer great advice. You can do this but its not easy. It's good you went to a ga meeting today and have counseling lined up. Like ODAAT said that people who don't have a gambling problem dont understand it.

Good luck

Just want to second what some other people have said... well done on going to the GA meeting and well done on day 2. Stay strong pal.

Hi, Jamie,

Well done on progress so far. Regarding practicalities, how are you doing with the barriers? Can your parents or your fiancГ© look after your money so that you have no access to cash or credit? This helps overcome temptation and I would advise you to sort it well before pay day. Also self exclude and put blockers on devices? All barriers help and in time it becomes the new normal.

CW

How you doing?