Is anyone online i can talk to?

Hi there

My name is Paul, I have posted no end of desperate accounts of my 20 year gambling addiction. First of all, I am all too familiar with gambling and the misery of addiction.

In August, I won about 750 quid and it felt great. I felt invincible and lost most of the cash I think over the next few days.

Anyway, I had enough of gambling for years, all I got was misery. Money was paper, nothing more and I was unhappy so I decided to try something different.

I purchased the following book from amazon

Overcoming Problem Gambling: A Guide for Problem and Compulsive Gamblers (Overcoming Common Problems) (Paperback)

Philip Mawer.

I'm not saying the book stopped me from gambling, I really wanted to stop and the steps really helped.

If you want to chat further, I will listen. You can stop, but you need to fight any urges. Its was tough, but I feel more in control and when I get an urge I dismiss it before it becomes a problem.

Good luck

Paul

i dont even know where to start i cant even see why it started but now reality has hit and husband wants to know how much we got in bank wheres my payslip gone and my heads spinning i feel sick with guilt and what a disappointment ill be

the real sad fact is chances and ultimatums however well meant, in isolation will not work.

Gambling addiction is an illness and life long once started.

Only way to make it work is if the people you love understand this and assist in the removing of the means to fuel the addiction.

It may be hard to hand over to your partner or a trusted family member your wages and cards and passwords and part of the independance of such controls however if you want this to work and they do too then that is exactly what you must do to be successful.

Install the k9 blocker for gambling sites -

get a non debit account for you and when you really need money for actual things that can't be paid directly by other half like say a present or gift etc then get the trustee to pay so much into that account.

for everything else keep receipt to prove it has been for what it supposed to be and finally try not to resent it as it is to help keep you all happy safe and in love.

Best of luck - you can do it.

Don't say sorry for being ill, but do take the steps needed for the antidote........as there is no real cure but remove the means and the fire can't spread.

Best of luck

Wayne (day 8 gamble free)

btw - perhaps i shouldn't say this but i will

Doctors are not that helpful i found when mentioning the issue i was literally ignorned after i turned down the offer to give me anti depressants..........i would never take anything like that.....i think that is their answer to everything ..... speaking to many girls over the years nearly all of them have been prescribed such tablets at some stage and this really suprised me.......like 17 out of 20 i know!

something not right about that..........but i no medical professional so each to your own decision....just not for me

Regards

Wayne

paul101 wrote: Hi there My name is Paul, I have posted no end of desperate accounts of my 20 year gambling addiction. First of all, I am all too familiar with gambling and the misery of addiction. In August, I won about 750 quid and it felt great. I felt invincible and lost most of the cash I think over the next few days. Anyway, I had enough of gambling for years, all I got was misery. Money was paper, nothing more and I was unhappy so I decided to try something different. I purchased the following book from amazon Overcoming Problem Gambling: A Guide for Problem and Compulsive Gamblers (Overcoming Common Problems) (Paperback) Philip Mawer. I'm not saying the book stopped me from gambling, I really wanted to stop and the steps really helped. If you want to chat further, I will listen. You can stop, but you need to fight any urges. Its was tough, but I feel more in control and when I get an urge I dismiss it before it becomes a problem. Good luck Paul

sounds good mate you sound just like me now i need help this book sounds good

Hi I'm new to this don't really know how it works?

Hey Tricky,

It seems to work how you want it to work! Firstly, congrats on coming on here and seeking out support. I'm Rachel, I've been on here and gambling free for 5 days now. I've read hundreds of threads from others in a similar position which has really heartened me as it means I am not alone in this God awful problem. My weakness is on-line slots but I'm on the right road to trying to sort it out.

the online meetings are 8-9 daily apart from christmas day

more than often there's only 1-2 people in the room

plenty of space if you want to come and share

My name is ronnie. its hard to know where to start and whether anyone can relate to my troubles. but here goes......

8 years ago i was introduced to the roulette and have been addicted ever since, working 40-50 hour weeks working myself in to the ground as every penny i get goes on gambling. i always lose always always always, surely i have to win if i keep going back is what i tell myself but again now another 1,000 lost again and again and again, every month without fail, struggling to eat, in debt and always borrowing when will this hell end for me... ? one year ago today i set P a business, going so well, however im now in more debt than i ever have been. i feel suicidle and i cannot cope, i have loads of staff relying on me i am so worried about failure but still do it, today i lost £7,000 on the roulette, does anyone have any advice?

Hi Ronnie

I hope you are ok. Try not to get yourself stressed about what's happening firstly, I know it's hard but it stops you thinking straight. Have you read anyone else's posts? I find that reading others stories helps me realise I'm not alone and gambling can be beaten. Don't get me wrong I'm only 4 days in and I've certainly failed a few times since I joined this site but today I self excluded from all my sites I go on. I have a long way to go but I feel better about seeing a future without gambling now than I did 4 weeks ago, even last week. It gets a hold of you and you can't think of much else sometimes but you can stop with the right advice and help if you really want to change. Please keep posting and just get out what's on your mind, even if it's rambling, none of us will judge we are here for the same reason. Take care x

Hi Ronnie, I can relate with your anguish, I also own a business and during the xmas period cleared out the company business account and lost it all. It was money owed to supplier's on the 01 January, also owe HMRC corporation tax and vat bill's outstanding all due to gambling. I also work 6-7 days a week when we have the work, i did'nt have a day off for 12 weeks during a period last year, but have nothing to show for it just more debt. Making excuses to my wife that all the money earned is tied up in the business.

You have a decision to make before it you get in to deep, stop now or continue until you've lost everything. I'm not in the position to offer experienced advice, my last bet was on New Year's day, i made a decision to stop and am determined not to go back. I lost thousands and have debts that will take 15 - 20 years to clear but by stopping for 11 days I have saved at least 5K. Used to lose £500 a night, if lucky on the rare occasion would walk away even. Spent 7 year's chasing losses and just got deeper and deeper in the s**t. Please consider stopping now and use this forum, post a thread and you will be overwhelmed by the amout of support and advice you will receive. Worth a try surely.

hi im craig, im 19 years old. i dunno where too start but i need advice too over come my gambling addiction. i think my 2 main problems are

1) gread... sometimes winning a bit is not enough and before i know it is all back in the bandit!

2) chasing.. say i put £20 in the bandit, i would chase that £20 until i got back too square 1 well thats never the case because it gets the the bit i put hundreds of pounds everyweek in gaming bandits and onling games. (w**********l - battleships ) i have put close too £7500 on the game alone in 6 months!! i cannot cope with this addiction.

some please guys any advise on how too turn off and just for get about gambling?

Dear All,

We've moved this thread from the chat room section, because it seems to fit much better here in the 'New Members' section.

Ronnie, I see that you've posted about feeling suicidal at times. Please talk with your GP and the Samaritans so you have more support if you're feeling overwhelmed at times. GamCare provides free 1-2-1 counselling appointments in many parts of Britain, how about calling us to find out more, on freephone 0808 8020 133.

Take care everyone, and do consider starting your own threads here in the 'New members' section, by selecting 'New topic'... that way you may get more noticed and more responses. Anyone is welcome to call us on our freephone if they'd like immediate emotional support, and also our Netline.

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