So yesterday I told my partner I have a serious problem with gambling , I have destroyed everything , I have stole from the one person who has been there from me for 17 years I've distroyed my son's life now aswell as his father's has said it's over what am I gonna do , because I'm hurting really bad and broken thoughts of going back on the sites keeps coming back and I'm fighting not to go
Hi @Misssnik87,
Firstly just wanted to say well done for coming on the Forum and sharing this. I can see things have been difficult for you and the people around you. I can imagine it must be tough dealing with these broken thoughts, Please remember you are not alone and there is a lot support out there for you.I'm glad you are using the Forum as an outlet.
Keep posting and reaching out for support.
I would encourage you to call the helpline (0800 8020 133) and talk things through with one of our advisers. They will be able to offer you support and some practical advice with everything going on right now. They would even be able to refer you for some free one to one treatment if you feel this would be useful for you.
Kind regards,
Vanessa
Forum Admin
Hi missnik87
Welcome
I know it feels all overwhelming at the moment but you have done the right thing by telling him and coming on here for support .It will take some time for your partner to hopefully understand that you have an addiction I was in that situation and when I told my husband it took a long time for him to understand and accept I had an addiction .
When he was ready we sat down and I told him everything and felt much better for it as it was finally out in the Open and I mean everything .It’s been a difficult time but every day I work on being GF and you can too it just takes time, put all blocks in place and I would consider taking up the offer of counselling it has helped me to see there were other unaddressed factors that contributed to my gambling .
The Site and support on here as helped as I’m sure you will find going forward In your recovery.
I wish you well
Take Care
Holly
Hi Holly thanks for the reply , I really do think it's over now I'm in so much debt we both cant afford to leave so we're still living under the same roof at the moment I'm sleeping on the couch , he won't even look at me I herd him cry for the first time over yesterday which is even making it harder ,I can't even bare food at the moment and my son keeps asking me why I keep crying it's sooooo hard how do people get through this
When you finally come clean, it's a huge shock for other people. Let them have time to think and process what they've been told.
I know it sounds selfish but you need to think about yourself too. Gambling is not the answer. It will only make things worse.
Put some preventative measures in place. Sign up to Gamstop and download a free 7 day trial of Gamban. Try to reduce the temptation.
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