So today was the day I admitted to someone I have a problem with gambling. I feel a mixture of emotions, relief, positive about the future, shame, regret being a few of them. It has been a lonely path and I have no told any of my friends or family. I have gambled my children's saving and now have a huge bank loan to repay. My husband has no idea. I know I need to tell him but I worry for his mental health and know it would break him. I will take this week to pick a friend to confide in. I'm so ashamed of my behaviour i know it will be tough---really tough!!!! Today is day 2 I haven't gambled, i have tried to keep myself busy but its that time of night where the urge begins.
I hope this journey gets easier
Hi Kate,
Thank you for posting on the Forum. I'm sorry that you are experiencing the feeling of shame and regret.
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Dan
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Thanks Dan. I have contacted them and they have put me in touch with someone. my first session was today and I found it very useful. I have set myself small goals for this week.
Hiya Kate
I feel for you and know how it feels to build up the strength to tell the ones we love. It's so hard to admit that you've got a problem but if you don't your always going to have to try and hide what you've lost and the debt you've got to pay without your partner knowing therefore it can cause you to chase your loss thinking you can sort it all with a win.I didn't tell anyone until I lost nearly £8000 in 1hr on roulette online. So my partner got a message from the bank and it was all out there in the worse way ever.I was so ashamed and embarrassed I did something really stupid that night that I totally regret. I was in hospital for 5days and when I got out I got all help I needed its hard but I don't have to hide it no more and that is better than trying to find the money
Thank you for replying. I'm sorry for what you have been through. I hope you are ok now. I discussed today disclosing to my husband and I have tried so many times but the words cant come out. The problem I have is that he suffers from anxiety and I am worried that my terrible behviour will tip him over the edge. I'm on day three of no gambling today. Its hard because im working from home and so temping to log on but I was paid yesterday and this is the first time my wages has actually stayed in my account. So I guess that is a small achievement.
Hiya Kate
I just take it one day at a time as we've all got our demons to fight, I get what you mean about your partner but is it not hard for you hidden the debt from him? Will it not make you gamble to chase your losses? Only you know what's best but stay strong and don't gamble
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