Just lost £400 of money I couldn't afford to lose,grrrr.why do we feel so bad when it's gone.not slept much feeling guilty.told my gf only problem we have 4 tablets and a pc k9 software in place and gf has password protected my iPad.ill be ok in a few days still got a few hundred quid left.i don't put all my wages on slots it's just when I win!!!. I put my winnings back unless I win over 1k then I keep it.gamcare counselling is closed for summer break now till 6th sept.As Rocknrollaa says f**k the FOBTS.
Day one is Thursday 4th August 2016.
Relapse can happen...personally it has happened me when a couple months passes and i havent backed any bets and my guard is down ' i think il try just a small football bet this weeknd' is how it starts. Its important to keep your guard up at all times..usual things...dont carry cash..dont carry bankcards and get new one..rport old one lost and get ur gf to scratch off 3 digit securiti code
Hi
You need that phoenix moment where you are fully focused that they are selling you a dream and a drug which is destroying you.
You need to be fully aware that you will continue to relapse unless you take the fight on and treat the addiction with the rear and respect that it deserves.
Gambling kills people and it completely ruins lives. It shreds relationships and self esteem before its even begun to get going. It is as simple as that really!
You need to take the fight on for full abstinence from gambling. It seriously means that you will have to hand your gadgets over if you are not in control. You will need people close who you report to and all the help you can get through counselling. There are no half measures and no room for thinking you can casually handle it in any way. You need to be closely monitored and blocking software may not be enough
Most gamblers go through the early stages of not wanting to do much and thinking they can handle it with light willpower. Its more deadly serious than that. If you have no doors open to gamble you will go off and do better things. You will have to while your mind heals
Relapses will always happen if you leave a door open into the world of gambling dens.
Being gamble free is a lovely feeling. I hope you will take all the steps needed to completely end gambling and join us
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
Hi,
Ask yourself this question......... Do you keep relapsing or are you still gambling? I think there is a difference. Joyriders post makes sense of this. There is no half-way house to this gambling addiction. Its give it your all or lose all. With me whether it was that first 2p I put in a slot machine 30 years ago or the buzz from the first £1.50 jackpot I ever won the gambling seed was planted in me. I always enjoyed "fun" sessions and betting that I believed was controlled, but look where this lead me. As Joyrider said "being gamble free is a lovely feeling" I totally agree, I know I'm in control, if I'm having a bad day no matter the cause, I'll reflect on this "lovely feeling" and know life is good. No matter how bad your day is, mixing it with the all the negatives gambling brings with it only makes things 10 times worse.
As compulsive gamblers we cannot control our gambling, that's why we are all on here. So back to the first 2p slot, this would be the same as me now (nearly 6 months bet free) suddenly deciding I'm safe with a £xx "fun" footy bet. That would be complete madness, I'll have opened the gambling door again leading to a place that has messed up my life. With that, the added ingredient of me hating to lose I know it would be against my nature to stop there, damage would be done. Fun bet after fun bet, win or lose I'd soon be the out of control addict I was last year.
All the best. Shep
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