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Dear Flyingfoxes,

Don't know if this is of any help, but please stop gambling. I have won big, very big, but lost later on double of it from my own savings. Gambling really isn't a way to gain money or to win back your losses. That I know now. And trust me, I have tried hard enough.

In the end you will lose, more than you could imagine now. Please stop and don't make that gambling hurt you. All best

Dear Flyingfoxes,  as a family member of a gambling addict please please seek help before it gets out of hand. I'm saying this in the least judgemental way possible.The wins may feel great at the time but remember how much you've spend to earn that win.

When you look at it from a different perspective you've more than likely lost more than you've won. If it's online gambling which is far too easy accessible in my opinion then you can put a block on your devices to put a stop to your online gambling.

You've made a brilliant first step in asking for help be proud of that! 5 months gambling might seem like a short amount of time but as you've realised it's snowballs quickly and that little money that started of small that snowballed into £100 deposits soon snowballs into £1000s of debit.

If you're comfortable with doing so please ring the sites helpline they're open 24 removed link I myself have rang them tonight for advice on how to support my family member as I'm new to the site. The advisor was a lovely friendly person who provided me with lots of resources and my family member made the first step in calling also. He's not much of a talker and the advisor was very empathetic and understanding and helped him to approach the conversation if you don't know where to start. I've already noticed how much lighter he seems to be from keeping it all a secret and bottling it up. He's finally realised how much it was affecting his mental health.

I wish you all the best, please take care of yourself.

Evening flyingfoxes @flyingfoxes

Open and honest post from you . If you still have some savings, try to get support now before the harm sets in and you get lost in the habit.

You say you want to go back to your old self. Wonder what that looks like? Daily reflections are really good.

Th highs of the win will not last and the positive feeling of paying off and buying things can diminish really quickly when you start chasing loses.  My son had highs when he won on roulette but the big win never returns and then in the end he forgot what the feeling was and just felt nothing and became numb and lost. Today he is alive and well 17 months free. ITs all possible but needs hard work and commitment and a will to change your life

Talk to this community, know your triggers, and open up your mind and thoughts to accepting and reaching out for help.

Its not easy but being honest with yourself is key.

Here,s the link for talking to someone Talk to us now - GamCare  

Gamcare really care so call anytime to see what they can do to help tailor your support.

Take care 

Patsy

Volunteer Peer supporter