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I joined today too and have followed same pattern as you. Let's stick at this. I intend logging on here anytime I get an urge. Good luck
Sophie

Hi I'm exactly the same , have totally had enough , I get annoyed with gambling but then I go back , first day today of a new star

Sophieseashell wrote: I joined today too and have followed same pattern as you. Let's stick at this. I intend logging on here anytime I get an urge. Good luck Sophie

Yes agreed Sophie, let's get things sorted, good luck

Hi it's the nature of our issue. I've been going doing fine last 6 weeks but fell off on Monday too. I was like in a different world and had 4 bets and lost £1400. Been down all week tbf. I've been very tempted to try and win back but so far resisting major urges.
One day at a time I suppose

Garydav5, I've fell into that trap many a time. I wrecken I've lost in excess of £10k in these last few months, gutted !!! But need to stop thinking it can be won back, as it's highly unlikely ☹️

Hi. The first step of coming on here is the hardest. I'm currently on 95 days gamble free and this is the longest time in 2 and a half years that I haven't gambled. Last time I tried I got to 92 days and caved. What I'm trying to say is that it's not easy, but coming clean is the best thing you can do. Last time I didn't and I'm convinced that's why I didn't reach 100 days. Get the steps put in place to help you stop and then come clean and tell everything but also say what you've done to stop it happening again. Have faith in yourself. The first 4 days gamble free are the hardest I think but after that it gets easier.

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Well done on admitting your problem and joining the site. There are a lot of people here that can give you some good advice and hopefully help you. I joined this place 263 days ago to be exact and have remained gamble free since. Let me give you a bit of a warning *STOP GAMBLING NOW*. My story began exactly like yours, hiding the betting, blowing all my cash, wife didn't know etc. I kept it hidden and years later there I was after blowing about 15k on a mad few months streak and reaching my lowest point ever with debts that would scare the life out of you if you knew. Getting into that spiral is very very easy, let me tell you getting out of it isn't.

You sound in a similiar position to me, you can afford your debts financially which is a great thing but the question I need to ask is What are you going to do when you get to that point that you can't?? It not only effects you but your family. What is more important, gambling or your wife?? I ask that because so many people on here have lost loved ones due to gambling, I was lucky...me and my wife are still together but let me tell you it wasn't easy at the beginning. If you could have spent a day in my shoes during those first few weeks you'd never gamble again. 9 months later without a bet and I've never felt better, more clear headed and in a better financial place. Me and my family have done so much in the last 6 months that we normally wouldn't have, it makes me wonder how much more we could have done if I didn't rack these debts up.

Talk to someone, if not your wife then a close friend you can trust, put the steps in place...suspend yourself from sites rather than closing account, install gamban on your laptop (I found that helped), if you can't attend GA maybe get some couselling sessions (might help you work out why you do it) they are free through this site. I found my issue was boredom as I spend long periods away with work, I've found that by finding things to fill my time keeps my mind from it.

Sorry I've blabbed on to much, good luck and I hope you can sort it all out.

United2017 wrote:

Garydav5, I've fell into that trap many a time. I wrecken I've lost in excess of £10k in these last few months, gutted !!! But need to stop thinking it can be won back, as it's highly unlikely ☹️

It's not highly unlikely at all. You will not win anything back. Even If you had a 'win' you would give it all back, maybe not the same day but over time, it would all go back with more interest than the worst payday lender. for what it's worth I think you have a pilot light flickering away in the background, call me a pedant but I think you need to revisit your wording...

Ok that's the first 3 days done. Still struggling to get the losses out of my head but shuffled my finances around to help get back on the right track.

Just got to resist any kind of temptation now, go on my hols in less than a week so hopefully a time of relaxing and reflecting will also help...... one day at a time !!

Compulsive Gambler. May I ask what you mean by a pilot light flickering away in the background? Confused!

Hello to everyone who has posted here. United 2017 you need to sit your wife down and tell her everything. Examine the reasons why you are afraid to tell her, be honest with yourself and admit that one of the reasons you don't want to tell her is because once you do you know you will have to stop. By not telling her it allows you to continue. If you continue you may lose her, your girls, your home and your job.

I won't ramble on with my story here but you can search it up and read in full what has happened to me. In brief I messaged my husband two days ago and told him he must not come home, not ever. I am divorcing him after 23 years of gambling after discovering a huge web of lies and online gaming transactions on Friday. He hasn't been home since going to work on Friday. He is sleeping on the top floor of an old pub with no washing facilities, I don't care. He is still wearing the clothes he left in. Our children are disgusted (aged 11 and 14) and our son has told me he does not wish to talk to him at all. He received 24K a month ago from a policy and is currently on a bender trying to get rid of it as fast as possible. He thinks I will relent, he's so wrong. He is out for good and I never wish to set eyes on him again. He has ruined our lives. I have messaged him and told him to put the 24K immediately into our son's account if he has any decency....no reply. I expect there is only about 10K left now. The lovely holiday abroad forgotten and the trailer for my daughter's pony also forgotten. I have been lied to for 23 years, I will now go forward with only the truth.

So to all of you compulsive gamblers I say this....if you truly cannot stop, then please walk away from your other halves now. Let them have the lives they deserve and the chance of happiness with a future partner. I have thrown away my life but it will not destroy my children. I am devastated, yet already I am feeling free. I can so this and I will. I will never stop him seeing our children and they know he loves them but also that he loves gambling more. He is no longer reliable, hardworking dad. He is a figure of shame in their eyes. Is that what you all want?

Well that's 17days done, and I've just come back from an amazing 8 day cruise which involves walking through a huge casino almost daily with no real temptation. Early days but feel better for this already, need to keep at it !!!

Well done for coming here, I am 4 days GF, my vice also online slots.

I dont agree when people say that their debts are ok and managable. Il tell you why. I have a good job, pays well and I always thought 'I can afford another £100 a month on the credit statement when it comes in or I can borrow £500 on a short term loan and then just afford to pay that back'. What I didnt think was...why? Why should I pay more a month when that money can be used for a better life for me and my family? I cant actually afford it if it means that I wont be able to buy a house for a few extra years etc. I could never 'afford' to pay these debts when all i was actually doing is putting off other things (lifefulfing things) in order to afford to pay them...does this make sense?

Anyway long story short, my gambling did cross the line (as most of us on here have found) and soon the numbers just didnt add up and I had actually borrowed, gambled and lost more than I could ever 'afford'. Getting that sorted now but I could never 'afford' to give £20K of my hard earned money away in the way i did in the last year.

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