Hello you lovely people.
I'm currently on day 54 days gf and the way I'm looking at it I basically used to gamble just about every day. So. I used to bet at least £5 on a daily basis or thereabouts, sometimes miss the odd day but sometimes bet more ££.
Take it as £5 bet everyday for the 54 days I am gf. I've saved myself at least £270 and looking at that makes me wonder why I ever gambled in the first place. Looking at figures like this makes it all worthwhile trying to beat this disease. But going back to when I was gambling, us gamblers know that numbers in accounts is just that. Numbers. Nothing else mattered to us.
I cannot afford, or we cannot afford to get complacent because I know and read so many posts that it only takes 1 bet to fall back in the big black hole. I'm currently getting professional help with 1 on 1 councilling which is helping me in the process just by talking about my recent past. I have no urges to gamble because like I've told my councillor I cannot afford to lose the life I have with my partner(hanging in by a thread). It's rocky at the moment but hoping that it does get better.
I admit it's going to be hard when the football season starts as that is what I mainly gambled on. I'm from the north east and a Sunderland fan. Our season starts tomorrow night, live on TV. I've told my councillor and partner this but I'm actually looking forward to watching a football match just for what it is. A football match. No pressures of who's scoring first goal, how many goals are scored etc. I'm going to get a few beers in and enjoy the game no matter what the score is.
Stay safe everyone and thanks for reading my post
Nev
Hi mate , well done on 54 days great going, can relate to what you say about the football starting as like yourself thats what i gambled on i to am looking forward to watching football again for what it is, cause i had fell out of love with the sport because of my addiction.I am a Leeds fan myself and know how tough it is to get out of the championship ha ha .......good luck with your recovery and enjoy the football season ahead
Well done on the 54 days! You are clearly taking recovery seriously and like you the counselling in the early days made a massive difference to me also. I now enjoy watching sport just purely for what it is with nothing riding on the outcome. Like you say we cannot afford to get complacent so keep doing what you are doing it's working and for now that is all that matters. I can tell you that nearing 500 days gamble free the difference in my life is unreal - I am much more productive, happier and in control of my own future. I still have debt but I'm paying it off as planned with even some extra savings for the first time in my adult life.
By sounds of things so far you are doing all the right things so keep it going my friend. If tyou don't have one maybe worth creating your own recovery diary to document your feelings particularly useful on the slump days we all encounter.
Wishing you all the best on your recovery journey.
chartom3
Thanks for your reply and support. I also fell out of love with it tbh. Looking forward to the new season as always but without the gambling side of it for a better future for myself without all the stress and pain it has caused over the years. I haven't even been keeping tabs on friendly results all over the globe like I would in previous years. Anyway I know how hard the championship is, it gets harder every year haha. Probably be fighting another relegation by xmas. Good luck to you also in your personal recovery.
tommy190416
Also thankyou to you for your reply and support. It's much appreciated. I am going in the right direction, being 'found out' has been a huge relief and opened my eyes as to how much gambling took over my life. I am very serious I will kick this in the b**t, like I said previous I cannot afford to lose my fiancГ©e, she really is the best thing in my life, I just need to carry on proving to her I do mean what I say cos understandably she probably doesn't believe a word I say, actions is what counts. She gave me conditions with her to give the relationship a chance. I have done all of these without any problems, on these forum support, councilling, helping around the house, dog walking, telling my friends for extra support and the most important one is transferring her any spare money I have out of my monthly wages. All conditions have been done. I still have down days as I know she doesn't look at me the same way, sometimes go as far as she doesn't want to be near me or associated with me, don't know if that's just in my head but hoping with time it gets better. You say you're nearly 500 days gf. All I can say is WOW that is fantastic. Inspirational. What is the recovery diary, post every day in that? Thankyou and thanks again for your support
Nev
Here we go chartom3.new season start without the gambling 🙂 hoping for a result for the red n white
NevetsEgdelloc wrote:
Here we go chartom3.new season start without the gambling 🙂 hoping for a result for the red n white
Not the result you were looking for mate , but suppose a point is better than nothing......going yo be a long old season
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