Hi just joined got to start somewhere . . .my name is Maggie I'm 44 & its been 7 days without gambling i have a problem with online slots been lying to my family for years got caught out when we nearly got evicted my husband has started to try sort out the mess ive caused with debt but somehow i dont think he'll ever be able to get over it i can see see the hatred in his eyes when talks to me & i know its only what i deserve. . .
Disgusted ashamed stupid horrible some of the words to describe how I feel about what I've done to my husband & family but I am determined to beat this I know it'll be hard when all I can think about is putting more money in to try win us out of the mess even though deep down I know i'll never win. . . got to keep telling myself NO NO NO
Hi Maggieh
Welcome to the forum and well done for posting on here and admitting you have a problem. All I will say is yes your husband will be very very angry with you right now just like my wife was with me !! You have got to be totally honest with him and other people about your problem and what situation you are in at the moment. Yes you will feel very ashamed/embarrassed with yourself about everything that's happened it's only natural but it's an addiction and unless we get help we won't lead a normal life, I would ring the gamcare helpline and the will speak to you and point you in the right direction. Ps you won't get back the money you have already lost and this is one of the things us gamblers find hard to take on board !! Good luck on your road to recovery and just remember it won't all be smooth sailing !
All the Best
Darren
Thank you
I'm just off the phone to Gamcare they are referring me to counselling in my local area I should hopefully be talking to someone face to face in the next couple of days I know I've got a long way to go but I can & will do this thanks again
Hi
Mr L is the recovering gambler in the house so I can give you a little advice from your husband's likely perspective. It's a massive shock when we find out what's been going on and yes, there will be anger and some very bruising things said.
What he will need to see is action from you. Action to show you're prepared to do all it takes to prevent your access to gambling and then to identify and address whatever it is that's driving the compulsion. Counselling is a good first step to this but I would recommend handing over complete control of your finances to him alongside and investigating where your nearest GA meeting takes place.
Recognising what got you into the mess won't get you out is good. You now need to take steps to make sure it's impossible for you to gamble even if the urge should strike.
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