well where can i start first off my names James i have a big gambling problem with roulette machines and online poker things have got too the point where i need to address the issue i have and seek help tryed it alone but i just relapse things that have i have lost threw gambling is unbelievable i need to get some help before it gets worse i work hard and never have nothing to show for all my hard work stress is a big issue to my trigger i just feel lost. i losted my dad three years ago which is the cause for all my stress i am seeking help for that too i just need to start chasing things up weeks go by and i dont her anything from gamcare or other support and then i just leave it and get stuck in the horrible cycle again and again. all help and tips are appreciated
Hi James, welcome to the Forum,
You seem like a decent person James; I think one of the problems you have is that you let everything get on top of you and that pushes you towards gambling.
We have all been guilty of that at one time or another, and it is easily done so please don't be too hard on yourself. What you have to do is deal with each problem and each urge as it arises; forget about everything else - deal with you, now, today and let tomorrow take care of itself.
I can understand how it feels to have nothing to show for hard work; I gambled for twenty years before stopping over five years ago - I have worked all my life and have nothing either. But what choice do I have? Do I spend the rest of my life wallowing in regret, or do I try and do something about it, as well as doing more with my life than ever before?
All of us have to draw a line under our past my friend. That also goes for people we have lost along the way; I have experienced tragedy and loss many times over, and it used to push me towards gambling as it did you, but now it makes me stronger; it makes me more determined to get the things I want from life and push on - sometimes you can use pain to your advantage if you work at it my friend.
If you feel drawn to that vicious cycle, then remind yourself that nothing is worse than what you have been through; nothing is worse than more years of regret, constant worry and lack of self-worth.
You are better than that James, and you deserve more, but you must work at it my friend; take it slowly, take it day by day and you will get there in time. I hope you can my friend, and I hope this is a turning point in your life.
JamesP
o*g! you are right i neither thought of it like that the best advice every thank you so much for your input i have just seen the post. its a great way too look at things i start consoling Monday for all my issues and too mainly get back on track i suppose i have some great things i want too do in life and the problems are just getting in the way at the moment gambling for one i had a relapsed today 10 which i all most losted but won back and walked away i was pretty pleased with my self but a bit dispointed as i went 2 weeks strong with not a penny on betting or gambling but it did feel good to walk away and what you said has made me think in a totally different way. One of my main triggers which i have only just realised is i always plays big money on 21 on roulette which is my dads birthday and there has been a fews times i have won on that number but i am going too take your advice on board and i thank you for your help and advice
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